The Sex Party and Porn Star Ramsees


Porn actor Ramsees. Photo courtesy of Next Door Ebony.

Labor Day Sunday I was home alone, dozed off too early in the evening and woke up a little before midnight bored and a little horny.

Then I remembered there was a Buttnaked DC Entertainment sex party down in Washington D.C. that was featuring some new porn star named Ramsees. I hadn’t been to a sex party outside of my own in ages and my partner “Van” was down in Florida so I decided to go.

So I showered, pulled on some white boxer briefs (white was the party color theme) and headed down to the party, which was held in a narrow rowhouse at the top of a cul-de-sac in Southeast D.C.’s Anacostia neighborhood.

Coincidentally I arrived right when Ramsees was getting dropped off. He is a tall, brown-skinned brother with a well proportioned body with handsome, man-next-door features.

I was walking upstairs and he was walking downstairs when we finally met. I looked him up and down admirably and I think he did the same.

“Hey brother,” I said, lightly caressing his body with my left hand as we passed each other on the stairs.

“Hey man,” he answered.

There were not a lot of people at the party — only about 25 showed up in the three or so hours I was there. So I was able to sit down with Ramsees in the basement and chat about his career.

Ramsees tops J.P. Richards. Photo courtesy of Mansurfer.

Ramsees is about 40 years old, hails from Brooklyn, and was into the swinger lifestyle. In fact he had a girlfriend. Porn producers noticed him at a swinger party which led to him being invited to do gay porn at a studio in Toronto.

He said before he did his first solo scene he abstained from sex for weeks so he could really get into it. The strategy worked — soon he was invited to do more scenes. I’ve watched a couple. He is verbal and enthusiastic and his body is alluring. And I’ve always found mature men like him attractive.

He said some of his friends discovered he did gay porn and questioned him about his sexuality but he denies he is gay. Ramsees said he just likes good sex and his partner’s gender does not matter. So I guess he is bisexual.

Ramsees says so far the life of a porn actor is a blast. He gets to travel, the money he earns for each scene is good and he loves the attention from fans, including the guys at the sex party.

“I can get an open mouth and ass anywhere I go,” he said.

Later on the party heated up. Ramsees watched as this young, slender, very vocal bottom called me Daddy as he bounced up and down on my dick while I sat on the sofa in the basement. Later I watched as the same guy got on his hands and knees and sucked Ramsees slim dick.

Then when I was fucking a dude I felt somebody touching my ass and balls and I turned around and it was him. He quickly backed away though.

Eventually we played a bit together in the dark area behind a curtain in the upstairs bedroom. We jacked each other off and rubbed dicks together, frotting passionately. And then I put my dick between his thighs, pumping my hips back and forth like I was fucking him.

But after awhile he abruptly pushed me off. No bother — there were plenty of other hot guys to play with.

When I was dressing to leave I wrote my name and number on a piece of paper and told Ramsees to call me because I wanted to interview him for my blog.

Ramsees said he would call but it’s been two weeks and he has not. So I decided to just write this blog entry instead.

 

 

DL Confessions Interview: Porn Actor Tancredo Buff on Daddies and Diversity in Gay Porn


Tancredo Buff

Tancredo Buff

Adult actor Tancredo Buff had been curious about doing porn since he was a kid in Puerto Rico and secretly looked at the X-rated magazine and film collections of his friends’ parents.

After migrating to the mainland United States as an adult Buff decided to make his dream a reality.

Mature actors such as sexy, gray-haired Allen Silver inspired Buff. Plus he got laid off from his job and had more time to pursue his porn acting interest.

He contacted a list of adult film studios and several got in contact with him.

Forbidden Funk Media called him in for an audition in New York City. After an exchange of Facebook messages and emails he also got an offer to do work with Tobii Chase, who films the Bigdickstudxxx.com series in south Florida.

And Buff  did a scene for Savage Talon Media that is available for members of the website.

I just let myself go

Buff admits he was nervous doing his first scene in 2013 and his skittishness must have shown in his eyes. But actor Randy Harden at Forbidden Funk Media put him at ease for his scene in the series “My Hole Belongs to Daddy.”

“When the cameras started rolling I transformed myself like a lion and started doing my scene,” he said. “It’s like I just let myself go like I’m falling in love with the other actor even though I’m not and it’s a professional thing.”

One of his favorite scenes was in “BearBack Workout” with Gant Black, Diesel Bear, Jack Harden and Jake Mitchell.  The chemistry was so intoxicating the actors didn’t want to stop freaking and kept the action going for hours, long after there was enough video to do the scene, Buff said.

Big Bear and Tancredo Buff.

Big Bear and Tancredo Buff.

And one of the most poignant encounters was with actor Big Bear in Florida with filmmaker Tobii Chase.

Buff went to Chase’s house to have dinner and discuss the scenes Chase wanted him to do.

Chase got on the phone with Big Bear and later Big Bear dropped by. The three began drinking and playing in the pool. Then Buff got out of the pool and almost stumbled and fell into Big Bear’s arms.

“He said ‘hello’ and just like that we started kissing,” Buff said. “I remember we said to Tobii ‘here is your scene.'”

Chase ran and got his camera and filmed the spontaneous sex session.

Big Bear and Buff became good friends after that encounter. But Big Bear unfortunately died last August from pneumonia.

“I have cried for friends and family but never so much like with him,” Buff said.

When he does porn Buff aims to please

Buff, who lives in Buffalo, NY, with his partner of 13 years in an open relationship, says he does porn because he enjoys sex. He endeavors to perform sexually in a way to satisfy others who watch and make them wish they were part of the action.

The money he earns pays bills, although Buff says you cannot make much money in the industry unless you are a superstar.

He only consulted his partner before doing porn and didn’t tell his friends until the first scene was released and many people had seen it. Buff said some friends felt weird seeing him having sex on camera but many said they liked it and have become some of his biggest fans, subscribing to streaming websites that feature his work.

Buff also actively promotes his work by using social media.

Growing up in Puerto Rico and seeking to break gay porn stereotypes as an adult

Puerto Rico is more open to gay people now but was not when Buff was growing up there. He said he acted masculine and played sports. However, Buff was still afraid someone would find out he was gay and he would become the victim of bullying from his friends, teachers and even his parents, which was the usual treatment of gays in Puerto Rico’s machismo culture.

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Tancredo Buff in a scene with Jack Harden (left) and Suil.

“I can remember going to my first gay bar when I was 18 and I always had the feeling that if somebody from the neighborhood saw me they would tell my parents,” Buff said. “I always had the feeling that things might change and they have in Puerto Rico now that same-sex marriage is legal.”

Buff said he came out to his parents by bringing home his boyfriend. His parents accepted without much fuss and stopped pestering him about when he would get married and have children. Buff has three living brothers and one foster sister and only his foster sister, whom he has the closest relationship with, and a nephew know he does porn.

Buff hopes his presence in porn will encourage more porn directors to feature mature Latino and African American. For decades the role of men of color in gay adult films has been that of the stereotypical, hard, sexually aggressive, down-low thug, he said.

The role of the dominant “Daddy” has traditionally gone to white men although black actors such as Buster Sly, Jerry Stearns and Cutler X have moved into this arena. Buff said the studios should depict the diverse sexual range of gay men of color.

“What I resent about studios is that they forget about mature Latino and Black men,” said Buff, who has a college degree and worked in government. “I could act like a thug but in my normal, regular life I’m not a thug. I think that motivated me to get into porn.”

More about Tancredo Buff:

TANCREDO-BUFF-8How he got his stage name: Tancredo is a variation of Tancredi, a warrior and a king and Buff is in honor of his current hometown Buffalo.

Astrological sign: Aries/Taurus cusp

His favorite colors: Red and green although he tends to wear a lot of blue.

Favorite food: chicken and rice

Favorite TV shows: “Top Chef,” “Once Upon a Time,” “Homeland,” “How to Get Away with Murder,” “Empire” and “Mr. Selfridge” on PBS

Favorite Vacation Spot: Any beach

 

 

DL Confessions Interview: How “RoyInSF” Jumped into Gay Porn at Midlife


I originally posted this article about porn actor “RoyInSF” in 2011 on my original blog DLConfessions. It was lost along with several other posts when that site crashed. I got back in contact with Roy and he graciously agreed to let me update and repost his story of entering the adult film industry at midlife.
Roy can be found on XTube as RoyInSF.

Roy can be found on XTube as RoyInSF.

 

Come on, be honest. We have all fantasized about being a porn star.
 
Well “RoyInSF” fantasized about doing it and made  it happen. And although having sex on film can be hot and intense, Roy says doing pornography is not as easy as getting your dick hard and having sex with your neighborhood fuck buddy.
 
There are three or four people hovering over you and your partner, and you have to angle your body to make the shot just right for the viewer at home. 
 
And Roy, 50, a tall, golden-skinned man of African American and American Indian descent with a fat, 9.5-inch dick, is a perfectionist who sometimes agonizes over his performance.
 
“It is the hardest work you have ever done in your fucking life — it‘s so much harder than it looks,” he said by telephone from his home in San Francisco. “It‘s work, work, work, work. You have to rest for two days beforehand.”
 
Yet Roy has quickly turned into a favorite male gay porn actor for me and possibly hundreds of thousands of others.
I saw his profile on Adam4Adam in 2011 when he was visiting Washington, D.C. for the Mid Atlantic Leather Conference back. I noticed he wrote about doing amateur porn on X-tube and gave his user name.
 
I looked a few of the clips and was impressed — my dick got hard but my brain was stimulated, too.
 
Thug porn bores the hell out of me. But here was a guy a little older than me proving mature guys could still be sexy, hot and masterful lovers.
 
Sometimes Roy was rough with his partners in the films. Sometimes he was gentle. Sometimes he was gentle and rough.
 
But the shot that got me was when a long, haired white dude was kneeling in front of Roy, sucking his big dick with relish. And Roy looked right at the camera and winked — an un-selfconscious wink that said, “Man, I’m enjoying myself and I hope you are enjoying yourself watching me.”
 
It was like he was inviting you to come into the action. I was hooked.
 
So I hit him up online and said I was interested in interviewing him for my blog. We didn’t get a chance to meet in Washington, D.C. and he got sick when he returned home but eventually we connected by phone and had a great conversation.
Getting started in porn
How did you get into porn was the first thing I asked.
 
Roy had always lived life on the straight and narrow. He grew up poor in Chicago and was one of the first people in his family to finish high school. He went on to college, got his master’s degree, and law degree and continues to be active in church.
 
But when a co-worker tried to sabotage his career by revealing Roy had once dated a porn actor something broke in him. Roy weathered that storm and kept his job, despite having to reveal personal information about himself to his employers.
 
“I learned a valuable lesson,” he said. “There is no such thing as propriety and safety.”
 
So Roy had a “what-the-hell” moment and decided to do something he had always wanted to do but hadn’t because he felt fenced in by the need to do “the right thing.” He began to do porn.
 
Roy, who has been HIV positive since 1988, was approached by a major porn studio and decided to take them up on the offer. He had long been asked to do pornography because, well, he has a huge dick that can stay hard.
 
“Their principles are very ethical — it’s like family,” he said of the experience. “I did my first real movie in September of 2010. I wasn’t crazy about my performance but everybody thought it was great. You have to put in time and practice.”
An XTube Sensation
 
Roy's tool.

Roy’s tool.

Then Roy decided to develop his own brand by putting short clips of himself masturbating and having sex with various partners on XTube.

The response he got proved he could have a successful part-time career as a porn actor.
 
“I went viral very fast,” he said. “I had just above a million views in the first month. People all over the world were writing me saying not only that they had cum off my video but how the videos affected their lives.”
Five years after launching his XTube site  continues to thrive.  He has had more than nine million views on XTube and tens of millions more views on websites such as Pornhub, MyVidster and RedTube.
“That’s crazy popular,considering the fact that many of my 100 plus videos are private and require a PIN to view,” he said. “Also my videos continue to be highly rated. Go figure. They have a combined 98 percent rating.”
“That’s wild, considering how many hateful trolls there are out there.”
Porn, religion, racism and the demand for mature porn
Roy is open about his sexuality — he told his mother he was attracted to men when he was just 12 years old — and at one time he was even married to a female.
Roy is active in his church and is even involved in leadership.  He sees no conflict between serving God and doing pornography.
 
A photo of Roy by photographer Duane Cramer (https://duanecramercreative.wordpress.com/).

A photo of Roy by photographer Duane Cramer (www.duanecramer.com).

“It’s really basic and it’s really real,” he said, explaining his beliefs. “God created us in his/her/their own image with our sexuality by purpose and design.”

 
“We are made sexual by creation and design — even asexual. There is no reconciliation that is needed before God. And it is as fundamental and as plain as that.”
 
Roy only has sex with other HIV-positive people in his personal films. And these people must have an undetectable viral load and be in treatment. That is why most of the guys who appear on his XTube posts are close friends.
 
I asked him why the thug genre continues to dominate the depiction of African Americans in gay porn. Roy says the reason is that racism still exists in the gay community — black men are viewed as either dominant or thugs and the public buys this image.
 
It is a mold Roy is trying to break through his porn. He is a mature black man who shows a range of sexual behavior. His movies do not present the stereotypical, cookie-cutter image of gay black men.
 
“Sometimes I am rough as hell and I am really fucking these boys,“ he said. “Other times I am kissing them and caressing them.”
 
As the Baby Boomer and subsequent generations of gay men get older and continue to be sexually active Roy predicts the demand for mature porn will grow. He thinks he is at the forefront of something big.
 
“I’m older and mature. I have a better sense of myself,” Roy said. “Gay people do one thing better than anyone else — they reinvent themselves.
 
“We are eroticizing ourselves,” he continues. “Why did the Bear Culture come about? White guys got fat and hairy.”
UPDATE: Roy is now 55 and continues to practice law. He hopes to retire from the profession. He has pretty much retired from filming studio porn. His last scene was shot last fall and will be released soon.

DL Confessions Interview: Life After Porn with Aarin Driver


Aarin Driver during his porn days. Photo courtesy of terrhot.blogspot.com.

Aarin Driver during his porn days. Photo courtesy of terrhot.blogspot.com.

Former porn actor Aarin Driver didn’t go into the adult film industry to make money. Growing up he loved watching gay porn so having sex on camera was a way to fulfill a fantasy and just have fun.

“There was always a serious plan,” said Driver, 36, who was attending college and got a bachelors degree in English Arts while doing two films and scenes for DawgPound USA and PapiThugz. “It was in and out.”

That was why it was easy to walk away from the camera. Now the Phoenix, Arizona native lives in small-town York, Pa., works in the financial aid office at a college, and is planning to return to college to finish his master’s degree in education administration or counseling.

He moved to Pennsylvania from Chicago to be with his partner, a man 10 years his senior who he originally met a year out of high school.

Today, a decade after first doing porn, Driver is busy helping students secure the money they need to get an education and in the kitchen experimenting with exotic food recipes. He loves the rural Pennsylvanian lifestyle.

When he feels a yearning for the big city he is an hour or so drive from Baltimore, Washington, D.C. or Philadelphia.

He says he is content, very much in love and even contemplating marriage.

“I never thought about marriage until I got with the dude I’m with now,” said Driver, a fast talker with a deep, masculine voice.

Buddy System Porn

Driver grew up in a conservative, extremely religious family. He is the oldest of three boys.

His parents divorced and his mother remarried a man Driver said fit the stereotype of the evil stepfather. Driver’s birth father, who was black, died while he was in high school. He is proud to say he was able to comfort his sick father and hold his hand while he passed away.

Driver never discussed being gay with his family and today has a familial relationship with only one of his brothers. Gay porn was an outlet — a way to come to term with his sexuality. In fact,  Driver said he learned a lot about being gay from watching it.

Aarin Driver and friend Ian Rock entered porn together. Photo courtesy of terhott.blogspot.com.

Aarin Driver and friend Ian Rock entered porn together. Photo courtesy of terhott.blogspot.com.

Years later, when he moved to Chicago, Driver and friend Ian Rock were at a leather convention and met a director who worked with celebrated gay porn producer and drag queen performer Chi Chi LaRue.

The director liked them and Driver and Rock decided to enter the porn industry together,  make a little money or  even launch their own business.  In fact, they shot a scene together that many consider one of the hottest in gay porn. Their chemistry was so intense many fans and gay porn news outlets and bloggers assumed they were lovers.

Driver shot those rumors down. He said he and Rock were just roommates and fuck buddies. There was never a serious relationship although they still keep in touch.

Driver said for him doing porn was enjoyable. He is a natural exhibitionist and it was exciting having sex with such hot men. However, porn has a dark side — drug abuse occurs and the list of porn actors who commit suicide is long. And the industry can exploit actors, Driver said.

Although he indulged in some of the fast side of porn life Driver didn’t let it overwhelm him or keep him from his ultimate goal of a career in education.

Do porn because you love sex, not $$$

Today, he advises people who want to do porn to do it because they love sex and not because of the money. And if you worry doing porn will hinder your future career prospects don’t even think about it.

That is because once your sex acts are digitally recorded and on the Web they are out there forever, easily downloaded on anyone’s cellphone, tablet or laptop.

For the most part his straight friends and coworkers have no idea he did porn. Only gay people recognize him as that hot, slender guy with dreads who could give dick as good as he took it.

“It only really happens when I’m in that (gay) population, like at Blatino Oasis or a gay club,” he said.

But Driver has no regrets. He had a blast doing porn.

“I was young and tender and wanted to get out and continue to live my regular day life,” he said.

aarindriver2More about Aarin Driver:

Favorite Food: Pizza

Favorite Book: “The Color of Water; A Black Man’s Tribute to his White Mother” by James McBride

Favorite Films: “Freeway” starring Reese Witherspoon and “Snatch” from director Guy Ritchie

What may surprise you about him: He’s a serious Trekkie

 

 

 

DL Confessions Interview: Adult Entertainer Buster Sly


Buster Sly. Photo courtesy of his website.

Buster Sly. Photo courtesy of his website.

Gay adult entertainer Buster Sly thought he was going to get fired the first time he made a pornographic film.

The EbonyD porn company saw model shots of Buster, were impressed with his good looks, and invited him to Toronto during Gay Pride to shoot sex scenes.

But the lights, camera and unfamiliarity with performing sex on demand made Buster so nervous he had problems keeping an erection.

To make matters worse on the last day of filming he was supposed to take part in a group jackoff scene where all seven actors were supposed to cum at the same time. But another actor played with Buster’s ass and he busted his nutt too soon — off camera.

“They were pissed,” Buster told me. “I just knew they would never hire me again.”

Despite his nervousness fans liked him and demanded the company feature him in more films. So a professional porn actor was born.

Buster, who shot his first scene at age 44 and his now 49, has done work for Forbidden Funk Media, Dirty Dawg Productions, and Alkaline Studios to name a few.

I identify with Sly and like watching him because he looks like men I roll with. He has a clean cut, grown-man look and brings passion to the game.

Still, Buster admits he had problems breaking into black films because producers didn’t think his look was thug enough.

Buster says he is completely open with his sexuality and what he does for a living and appreciates everyone who follows his career, even people who take the time to post snarky comments about his decision to do porn.

“I don’t get the shame — not even close,” he said. “I told my parents before I got into porn what I planned to do. My nieces and nephews know and chat with my fans on my website. My grandmother even knows.”

“I’m grateful for my family and unconditional love really is that,” he said.

Want to learn more about Buster? Visit his website www.bustersly.com, follow him on Twitter @BusterSlyXXX, on Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/Sylvester.Buster.Sly or his blog. And check out my favorite Buster Sly clip, this hot Daddy/Son scene with Troy, courtesy of Pornhub.

Buster is visiting Washington, D.C. this week on his way to Europe, where he will continue working to make his web-based fashion and porn business a success.

My boyfriend “Van” and I had planned to hire him for massage but due to scheduling and the fact Van and I were shuttling back and forth between Baltimore and D.C. over the last few days we couldn’t connect.

However I texted Buster tonight and asked whether I could interview him for my blog and to my surprise he agreed. So I talked to him while he ran into a McDonald’s to use the bathroom and order a burger.

Buster was born in Austin, Texas but his father was in the military and the family ended up in North Pole, Alaska, a suburb of Fairbanks. The town’s main attraction is the Santa Claus House but Buster warned me not to go there because it’s a tourist trap.

The Santa Claus House in Buster's hometown of North Pole, Alaska. Photo courtesy of nydailynews.com.

The Santa Claus House in Buster’s hometown of North Pole, Alaska. Photo courtesy of nydailynews.com.

Buster always knew he was gay. One of his earliest pleasurable sexual experiences was playing around with other members of his high school varsity basketball team.

At age 13 he asked his father what homosexuality was and his Dad explained that as long as two people loved each other it didn’t matter what gender they were.

However, Buster’s childhood and teen years were not all so smooth. Starting at age six he was molested by an uncle who was gay. The uncle died when Buster was 18 and Buster got tested for AIDS and discovered he is HIV positive.

“That was his parting gift,” he said of his uncle.

When his family found out about his status a sister wanted Buster to move in with her, her husband and two kids so she could take care of him during what everyone thought would be the little bit of life he had left. She even offered to let him bring his lover with him.

But Buster wanted to live life to the fullest. And surprisingly he stayed healthy long enough to survive until life-saving HIV treatments arrived.

“If I’m going to die I’m going to enjoy life,” he said. “Then to find out 20 plus years later I’m extremely healthy.”

The key to making it in the porn business is to control your own product and brand, Buster explained. Thankfully, online porn offers something for everybody so he has been able to find a niche.

If you like men with salt and pepper hair there is porn that caters to that, he said. If you like bears you can find online scenes that will keep your dick hard. And if you prefer porn where black men top white men or white men top black men all you got to do is Google, Buster said.

So there is definitely a market for mature black men like himself, said Buster, who says gay black men are increasingly breaking out of the stereotypical, homothug porn genre.

Buster has 10 different designers making clothes for him, which he will sell on the web. He has done seven porn scenes but wants to film about 10 more before posting them on his website.

He also does live sex shows and hosts Gay Pride Events, including an upcoming one in Belgium.

I asked him why so many gay porn actors get into drugs and tend to die by suicide. Buster explained the industry is very exploitative, with people who use emotionally or financially vulnerable men.

“It has everything to do with the entertainment industry,” he explained. “You have predators who gravitate to it.”

But Buster, a freewheeling Aquarian who loves to travel, plans to stay in the adult industry.

“I love what I do,” he said. “I love the opportunities that it affords me. Yet I also believe in being a responsible steward. I believe I can win and the people who work with me will win.”

“Anyone who works with me I definitely believe in empowering them and not enslaving them,” he said.

 

 

 

Smash Mountain Weekend (Part 2)


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The Rainbow Resort main building. It snowed the day we came and the scenery was beautiful.

By the time “Van” and I got  to the Saturday night sex party at the Smash Mountain Brother’s Getaway in Pennsylvania’s Poconos Mountain the sex show with porn stars Rio and Markell was almost over.

The two lay on a king-sized bed in a room at the Rainbow Resort, their tight, tattooed bodies illuminated by a cellphone flashlight.

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Porn stars Rio (left) and Markell.

They tongue kissed each other and licked each other’s nipples and jacked dicks.

Then Rio flipped Markell on his stomach and ate his slender brown ass as a crowd of guys stood round watching and jacking their dicks.

But their sexcapade seemed half-hearted. To be honest they looked a little tired.

Over the past two days they had been offering massages to some of the 70 or so guys attending the Brothers’ Retreat.

That’s a lot of back rubbing.

“They were really nice,” said Van, who got a massage from Markell while I was busy playing a couple of rounds of Spades in the hotel lobby.

So Van and I walked around the two rooms of the sex party instead of watching them.

But it was too crowded and couples had already been fucking on the beds for a few hours, so who wanted to lay in that?

Luckily we ran into a friend of mine from the D.C. area named “Tobin.”

Tobin is a tall, slender, dark-skinned verse guy with a high bubble butt, long legs and a huge dick.

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Tobin tops Van.

Van and I played with him for awhile standing in the dim room, licking nipples and jacking. But Tobin had mentioned several times  during the weekend he wanted to get with Van and me alone so what better time?

“Hey come back to our room up the hill to play,” I offered. And Tobin agreed.

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I fuck Tobin while he fucked Van.

Twenty minutes later we were back in our room at the Cherry Lodge. I started by eating out Van’s ass while Tobin looked on appreciatively and jacked his long dick while laying back in the bed.

Then I spread Van’s long legs and fucked him missionary style, pounding slow and then hard and fast. Then I ate his ass some more and fucked him again.

It was so pleasurable for the both us our moans filled the room.

Then Tobin took a turn and fucked Van. And I climbed in behind Tobin and started fucking him, pounding him and Van beneath him into the mattress.

Later Tobin said he wanted to see me eat Van’s ass out some more because it turned him on so Van and I 69’ed while Tobin beat his dick some more.

We ended with me standing up in bed and jacking thick nutt onto Tobin’s face and Van’s stomach.

Then Tobin dabbed some of my nutt onto Van’s tongue while I ate Van’s ass while he jacked. And Van blew a nice nutt.

“That’s the first time I ate your nutt,” Van said later.

“How was it, bitter,” I asked.

“Nah kinda sweet.”

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Tobin and Van relaxing.

We talked with Tobin awhile and we offered to let him. sleep with us but he was staying at another hotel and wanted to hit the sex party for a few more hours and take the shuttle back to his room.

The Rainbow Resort is a little shabby and dated. The water pressure got low or turned off altogether when everyone in our lodge showered at the same time.

But it was a great weekend. We caught up with friends from Georgia , New Jersey, and Florida and made new friends from as far away as London.

We danced at the resort club, sang karaoke for the first time at the basement bar (Van sang Luther Vandross “Take Me Out” and I did the Eurythmics “Sweet Dreams”), soaked in the hot tub, and had great conversations with others about being black gay men.

And Van and I got some time to go off alone sometimes,  relax and grow closer.

What it’s like to have sex with one of your favorite porn actors


He is one of my favorite porn actors.

He is a not a skinny young kid porn star like Jovonnie or Drilla or Jermany. He didn’t start acting until he was 40.

But he brings passion to the game that is irresistible. Particularly that group sex scene where he is drilling a bottom doggystyle on a hotel bed and cums with a roar and shoots nutt everywhere — on the bottom’s ass and into another guy’s mouth.

Wow that is hot. Let me rewind that and jack off to it some more.

To me there is nothing sexier than a mature black man. The porn actor I rolled with fit the bill. Photo courtesy of JustUsBoys.com Mature Black Daddies thread (http://www.justusboys.com/forum/threads/279331-Mature-Black-Daddies).

To me there is nothing sexier than a mature black man. The porn actor I rolled with fit the bill. Photo courtesy of JustUsBoys.com Mature Black Daddies thread (http://www.justusboys.com/forum/threads/279331-Mature-Black-Daddies).

So imagine my excitement when I went online and learned he lived not a mile away from my house. From time to time I would hit him up and chat and invite him over for a threesome or a cookout or card party. And he would always be polite and sometimes say he would come but never did.

But Friday before last I was fucking a bottom before work and invited him over and he said, “Yes, sure thing. A TGIF morning sex session would be nice. Give me time to get showered.”

It took him so long to come over the bottom, who had to go to work, fucked and left and I was alone when he knocked on the door.

There he was, the man from my digital dreams standing in sweat pants and a pullover in my dining room.

“Hey the bottom just left. You just missed him by five minutes. He had to go to work.”

“Oh okay. I’m sorry.”

“No problem,” I said, fully intending to chat a moment and then send him home so I could dress and go to the job. My work clothes were already ironed and laid over a chair.

However, we looked into each others’ eyes for a hot second and I saw desire so I made a move. I walked over to him and maybe I kissed his neck, or his mouth, or pulled up his shirt and lapped on his nipples. I don’t remember which.

And it was on. We were all over each other. In the dining room and back up the stairs to my bedroom. Kissing each other deeply and taking turns sucking each others’ dicks.

I have to admit it was weird being in bed with someone I had only seen on my flat screen TV or laptop. It was like your favorite Superhero from a comic strip come to life.

His skin was a richer, dark, chocolate brown than onscreen. His smile brighter. He was more slender — the camera does add 10 pounds. However his dick definitely looked bigger.

But the passion that came through on the screen was still there. His moans were just as hot.

I didn’t fuck him. We just did some serious foreplay and frotted, rubbing our dicks together. His skin felt so warm and supple against mine.

“You are so sexy man. And damn you have a pretty dick.”

Can you imagine what it is like to have a person you objectify for their sexiness tell you you are sexy? My ego jumped to the roof.

After we busted a nutt I got dressed for work and we talked about everything from gay relationships, to travel, to folks we knew in common. That was almost better than the sex — he was very intelligent and a free spirit like me.

Since our meeting we have texted on the phone and promised to develop our friendship. I hope we do.

P.S. The porn star knows I blog but I promised not to reveal his identity.