DL Confessions Interview: Life After Porn with Aarin Driver

Aarin Driver during his porn days. Photo courtesy of terrhot.blogspot.com.

Aarin Driver during his porn days. Photo courtesy of terrhot.blogspot.com.

Former porn actor Aarin Driver didn’t go into the adult film industry to make money. Growing up he loved watching gay porn so having sex on camera was a way to fulfill a fantasy and just have fun.

“There was always a serious plan,” said Driver, 36, who was attending college and got a bachelors degree in English Arts while doing two films and scenes for DawgPound USA and PapiThugz. “It was in and out.”

That was why it was easy to walk away from the camera. Now the Phoenix, Arizona native lives in small-town York, Pa., works in the financial aid office at a college, and is planning to return to college to finish his master’s degree in education administration or counseling.

He moved to Pennsylvania from Chicago to be with his partner, a man 10 years his senior who he originally met a year out of high school.

Today, a decade after first doing porn, Driver is busy helping students secure the money they need to get an education and in the kitchen experimenting with exotic food recipes. He loves the rural Pennsylvanian lifestyle.

When he feels a yearning for the big city he is an hour or so drive from Baltimore, Washington, D.C. or Philadelphia.

He says he is content, very much in love and even contemplating marriage.

“I never thought about marriage until I got with the dude I’m with now,” said Driver, a fast talker with a deep, masculine voice.

Buddy System Porn

Driver grew up in a conservative, extremely religious family. He is the oldest of three boys.

His parents divorced and his mother remarried a man Driver said fit the stereotype of the evil stepfather. Driver’s birth father, who was black, died while he was in high school. He is proud to say he was able to comfort his sick father and hold his hand while he passed away.

Driver never discussed being gay with his family and today has a familial relationship with only one of his brothers. Gay porn was an outlet — a way to come to term with his sexuality. In fact,  Driver said he learned a lot about being gay from watching it.

Aarin Driver and friend Ian Rock entered porn together. Photo courtesy of terhott.blogspot.com.

Aarin Driver and friend Ian Rock entered porn together. Photo courtesy of terhott.blogspot.com.

Years later, when he moved to Chicago, Driver and friend Ian Rock were at a leather convention and met a director who worked with celebrated gay porn producer and drag queen performer Chi Chi LaRue.

The director liked them and Driver and Rock decided to enter the porn industry together,  make a little money or  even launch their own business.  In fact, they shot a scene together that many consider one of the hottest in gay porn. Their chemistry was so intense many fans and gay porn news outlets and bloggers assumed they were lovers.

Driver shot those rumors down. He said he and Rock were just roommates and fuck buddies. There was never a serious relationship although they still keep in touch.

Driver said for him doing porn was enjoyable. He is a natural exhibitionist and it was exciting having sex with such hot men. However, porn has a dark side — drug abuse occurs and the list of porn actors who commit suicide is long. And the industry can exploit actors, Driver said.

Although he indulged in some of the fast side of porn life Driver didn’t let it overwhelm him or keep him from his ultimate goal of a career in education.

Do porn because you love sex, not $$$

Today, he advises people who want to do porn to do it because they love sex and not because of the money. And if you worry doing porn will hinder your future career prospects don’t even think about it.

That is because once your sex acts are digitally recorded and on the Web they are out there forever, easily downloaded on anyone’s cellphone, tablet or laptop.

For the most part his straight friends and coworkers have no idea he did porn. Only gay people recognize him as that hot, slender guy with dreads who could give dick as good as he took it.

“It only really happens when I’m in that (gay) population, like at Blatino Oasis or a gay club,” he said.

But Driver has no regrets. He had a blast doing porn.

“I was young and tender and wanted to get out and continue to live my regular day life,” he said.

aarindriver2More about Aarin Driver:

Favorite Food: Pizza

Favorite Book: “The Color of Water; A Black Man’s Tribute to his White Mother” by James McBride

Favorite Films: “Freeway” starring Reese Witherspoon and “Snatch” from director Guy Ritchie

What may surprise you about him: He’s a serious Trekkie




My Favorite (and Least Favorite) Porn Stars


Haze: This phat booty little thug is what I like. Masculine. Handsome. Got a little meat on his bones. Very vocal. And can take dick for days:

Haze (right) and Double R on the DVD cover.

Double R tops Haze.

Ian Rock: I love a mature Daddy that keeps his body in order and can fuck like a rabbit. Click here to watch an intense scene with Ian Rock and Aarin Driver. I read these two once dated and it’s apparent when you watch them having sex. The lovemaking is energetic and hard but affectionate and passionate at the same time. Tops, look at how this brother makes love and take notes.

Ian Rock

DeAngelo Jackson: He is not so well hung but this brother is mad handsome and is a very talented top and can eat booty like a starving man. He also has a great body and seems to have a winning personality. My partner Morgan wanted to include him on the  list.

Deangelo Jackson (right) and his next willing victim.

Shorty J: Morgan hipped me to this dude. A cute shortie with a fat booty. Can suck dick, eat ass, get fucked and fuck. He’s got it all. And when he does a scene he gives his all.

Short J.

Gene Lamar: And oldie but goodie from the ’80s. Yeah, he wore a tired ass jheri curl. But Lamar has something a lot of young thug actors lack. He seemed to really enjoy having sex and got into it. His little squeals and moans are legendary.

Gene Lamar about to get it.


Gene Lamar retired from porn and reportedly lives a quiet life in California. Here is a photo of him from around 2008. Yep, I’d still bang it.

The Keep it Moving List:

Bobby Blake: Yeah, I know a lot of white gay guys and many Black ones are into the Mandingo Thug type and Bobby fits the bill. But his scenes bore me. He is into dominating bottoms. “Yeah, bitch, take that dick. Suck my dick bitch. You know you like dat dick bitch.” Bitch. Bitch. Bitch. Is that all he can say? And I had the (dis) pleasure of talking with him on the phone a few times. He came across as arrogant and not too bright, which was a total turn off. There is nothing sexier than a man with head on his shoulders and not just between his legs.

Bobby Blake

Castro aka Supreme: This is a pretty dude and he has beautiful body and a big dick. But watching him have sex is like watching paint dry. You can tell he is just there to get his check, fuck the white dude and exit stage left. And is he even getting hard? Alas, he is not very good at bottoming either. Stop whining bitch and just take the dick!

Castro aka Supreme

Trapboyy Ace: This shorty is a good little bottom and cute too. But I made the mistake of friending him on Facebook and got to see another side of his personality. He comes across as catty and superficial, disses people regularly on FB and Twitter, and seems to think he is the shit. Part of it may because he is young and fans are falling at his feet. I think dude should grow and aspire to be something more than the bottom flavor of the month.

Trappboy Ace

Q: Readers, could you please share your favorite and least favorite porn stars?