The Seven Freakiest Professions

I’ve had myriad sexual experiences and I’ve noticed a trend.

Do you think porn actors are the most sexually charged professions? Wrong.

Gay men who work in certain professions can be freakier. And unlike porn actors they do it for free.

Here are the seven most sexually active profession that I’ve run across:

7: Teachers

When you got deal with bad ass kids all day you have to blow off steam some way. I guess that’s why some of the horniest men I have met are elementary, middle and high school teachers. Plus they are off in the summer and have more time to play. Well, unless they gotta teach summer school, too. One of my more recent flings with a teacher was when my partner “Van” and I had a threesome with “The Persistent One” back in May.

6: Dancers

I’ve swung with several dancers. Even when they get older these guys tend to keep their bodies and shape and be limber. They include my buddy “Randall” in Los Angeles and a former Broadway dancer who now teaches dance.

5: Higher Education

It seems that people who work in academia have a higher sex drive. Wassup with that? During my adventures I have run across a Howard University professor who used to give me head in his office during his student consultation hours; a married college president who I fucked in his hotel room when he visited D.C. to meet with donors; and a pharmacy professor who loves to get on his knees in his study and suck dick (Read “Catching the Straight Boys”).

4: Funeral Directors

I guess being around dead people so much makes you better appreciate living life — and having sex. And it seems that same-gender loving men flock to this profession.

3: Psychologists and Psychiatrists

Maybe men who work in these professions are more in tune with their kinks since they work with people who are trying to work out mental issues. One of the plus sides of messing with men in this profession — you can get a free therapy session after busting a nutt with them.

2: Gospel singers

Some of the ones who I have met may dedicate their vocal chords to the Lord but their dick and asses belong to someone else. I’ve fucked with several, including a well known singer with a five octave range who would sing to me after I blew his back 0ut. Want to get some good sex? Hang around gospel music conventions. Read the “Religious Right.”


1: Ministers

Hands down men of the cloth are the biggest freaks. I can count the number I have been with on more than two hands. I’ve learned spirituality and sexual arousal can go hand in hand. Two ministers I know said the exhilaration they give from giving sermons on Sunday makes them so horny they often go prowling for dick and ass on Monday. One of the downsides of messing with ministers is that many of them have to put up a front of respectability so many marry for convenience. So being on the down-low is common in this profession. Read: “Profile of a Down-Low Brother: Preacher Man.”

Q: Readers, what professions do you think are the freakiest?

The Down-Low Husband Needs Dick

Remember “Jose,” the young man from Philadelphia who had a long-time boyfriend but married a woman for cover?
You know. The one whose lover was best man at his wedding?

Well his wife was at work early this morning and the urge for dick and horniness got the best of him and he started texting me videos.

A matter of fact it was three in the morning and the notification sounds from his Facebook messages interrupted my sleep.
In the first video he sent he inserted a banana in his ass. He had the good sense to put a condom on it so he didn’t get banana puree in his ass.

“Tell me what you want me to do Daddy,” he texted. “I already have two fingers in my ass.”

I thought a moment.

Why not?

“Let me see you put three fingers in.”

And he did.

Immanuel’s 7 Tips for Growing Older Gay with Grace

This brother is definitely aging well. We don’t all have to fit this ideal but it is important to have healthy habits.

Wow, time flies. My children are adults now and one is married. I could be a grandfather soon.

I’m still getting it in and enjoying life in my early 50’s but realize my time on Earth is limited. And I have a a wide range of friends in my age group experiencing the same thing.

So here is my advice on how to grow older as a gay man with grace, style and dignity:

GET  YOUR FINANCES STRAIGHT: The lifespan of the average American is now 79 years, up from just under 70 in 1960. So odds are you will live longer than your parents and grandparents. You should make sure your money stretches longer too. While you are in your 50’s and still earning start paying down bills so that debt doesn’t drag down your retirement income. And start adopting habits you will probably have to as you age. These including cooking more at home, cutting back the cable bill and learning how to entertain yourself for less (try attending minor league events with lower ticket prices, concerts in the park, and free art galleries). Also, AARP is your friend. My partner Van and I use their discounts for the movies, hotels and rental cars.

WATCH YOUR HEALTH: People over age 50 are still having a hell of a lot of sex (like yours truly) and account for 17 percent of people getting HIV. My doctor got me on PrEP (which blocks HIV infection) because I am sexually active and I recommend you get regular checkups for STDs (doctors recommend every three months if you are sexually active) and get routine general health checkups done. Many illnesses that men get (colon and prostate cancer) can be treated well if detected early.

EAT HEALTHY AND EXERCISE: Face it, many men let themselves go to seed when they get older. They get the big stomachs and gain 20 pounds every five years. You don’t have to be a stereotypical gay gym bunny. It’s the little things that count. Take regular walks. Get a bicycle and use it sometimes. Drop the sodas and limit the alcohol and drink lots of water. Eat more healthy. Don’t give up meat entirely but try to consume more fish and try going vegetarian several days a week. It pays off. I attended my 35th high school reunion this fall and everyone was complimenting me on still having that small waist and no gut. Sure, I will never be a size 29-inch waist again but it sure is nice to be able to see my dick when I look down.

EXPAND YOUR SEXUAL REPERTOIRE: Sex lowers blood pressure, releases pleasurable endorphins, relieves stress and is good for mental well-being. So have sex albeit safely. And mix it up — and break the routine and try something new. Keep the dick hard — if you have erectile issues there are several medications that can help you. Consult your doctor and get them.

VOLUNTEER: Stay engaged in helping others, especially the younger generation of LGBTQ coming up after you.

KEEP YOUR DRAG TOGETHER: Dress stylishly but not too trendy, which can make you appear ridiculous and like you are trying too hard to still look 25. Wear clothes that are fitted, even if you are heavier. Loose, baggy clothes can make you look stockier and dated. Keep your hair (not just head and facial hair but also pubic) trimmed and neat. Moisturize and again drink plenty of water, which makes your skin appear more supple and younger.

CULTIVATE YOUNGER FRIENDS: Stop hanging around with just a bunch of fuddy duddies. Younger people can school you on the latest electronics, music, fashion, TV series etc. Thanks to younger friends in their 20s (Hey TC and CW!) and  I have learned about the Cash App and Cardi B and a lot of other things.






Why would a top send a video like this?

A buddy of mine who swears up and down he is a strict top sent me this video yesterday morning.

He claims he was playing with a “bottom” buddy who wanted him to play with his ass on camera for him.

“Oh you must want some dick,” I texted him.

But my buddy said although he likes people playing in his ass he will never want a dick in it.

I think he is lying his ass off. In the video that bottom sounds more like a top to me.

And why send it to me? Is it an invitation?

RIP Giovanni Melton

Giovanni Melton

Fourteen-year-old Giovanni Melton was murdered by his father last week. I know this happened days ago but it’s taken me time to process this and write about it.

With all the bad news going on in this nation — mass shootings and this incompetent piece of shit that is our president  — this murder shook me.

Giovanni’s father Wendell Melton claimed he went to visit his son in an apartment in Henderson, Nevada. His father had put him in the apartment because Giovanni allegedly did not get along with his new wife.

Giovanni allegedly skipped school that day and his father wanted to check on him. Instead they got in an argument, Giovanni allegedly pushed his father down, and when his father got up his gun went off, striking his son in the chest.

However, news reports say his father had been burning with anger over the fact his son was gay and had previously pulled a gun on Giovanni and his boyfriend. Some say Wendell would rather have a dead son than a gay son.

Some people in this world are so hateful. So ignorant. That was his child. His flesh and blood.

Who gives a fuck what the world thought about your son? Why is your masculinity so fragile that you have to kill your  child to prove you are a man?

To add to the pain Giovanni had been in foster care and abused and neglected by his family for years, according to his former foster mother Sonja Jones.

Such a short life filled with such misery and hate from people who are supposed to love and accept you. That bothers me the most.

I hope and pray Giovanni has found comfort in the afterlife and some good on Earth will come from his death.


Florida Swinging: DL Paranoia

A street in Liberty City. Photo from Wikipedia.

Living in the more liberal Baltimore-Washington, D.C. area I take my gay rights for granted.

I can go to gay bars, gay clubs, gay bathhouses, gay book clubs, gay dodgeball leagues, gay plays etc. and not give it a thought. Walk down the street with my dude and dare somebody to fuck with me.

But when I traveled to Fort Lauderdale this week I was reminded of just how fortunate I have it.

This brother down in Liberty City, a predominately black neighborhood in Florida featured in the Oscar-winning gay film “Moonlight,” hit me up on Adam4Adam.

He was extremely paranoid but finally opened his pictures to show a handsome, thick, dark-skinned brother with a beautiful black beard. He identified as top but said he wanted to meet up and suck my dick.

I explained that I was here with my partner and any action would be a threesome or a small group.

“Nah,  I don’t do that bruh. I’m down-low.”

Tarrell Alvin McCraney.

I told him not to worry. Nobody was going to out him for coming by and sucking a little dick and busting a nutt. I even gave him the URL for my blog, explaining that I had been in the closet like him and maybe he would like to read about my journey.

But he wasn’t having it.

“Did you show your dude my pic?”

“So what if I did,” I texted back.

“I see where this is going. No bruh not interested,” he answered.

And he blocked me.

It’s sad. This brother is in his mid 40s still jumping through these mental hoops.

And he wasn’t the only one. I haven’t gotten hit on by so many black men identifying as DL in years.

But I had to think about it awhile and get off my rainbow-colored high horse.

This man lives in one of the toughest parts of the city where being a gay man could be dangerous. In fact the film “Moonlight,” which addresses homophobia and bullying, is based on a play from Tarrell Alvin McCraney, an openly gay man raised in Liberty City.

And despite the vibrant gay in Fort Lauderdale’s predominately white Wilton Manors south Florida is still home to people who were born or are the children of people from conservative, homophobic nations in the Caribbean and Latin America.

So these paranoid men and I are coming from two different places and I have to accept that.