12 Reasons Gay Men Don’t Get Sex or Relationships 


1. You are too picky. I’m sure you don’t look like a super model. So why do you insist your mate be perfect?

2. You are hanging with the wrong crowd. Break away from the pack – they could be cock blocking.

3. Stop hanging out in the same bars and clubs. The same folks tend to hang in the same places.

4. You aren’t being honest with yourself. Come on. You know you really like bottoming. So why you advertising as a top? You will just frustrate yourself and your potential partner.

5. You aren’t as cute as you think. Perhaps a better diet and a modest exercise routine or better fitting clothes would help.

6. You aren’t as fabulous as you think. Being trendy works in certain circles but looking too edgy can be a turnoff. 

7. You are too negative. You complain about the food in restaurants.The music at the club is too loud. Or the people at the bar in your opinion are ugly. You say insulting things about people or gossip. Or you throw a forest of shade in public. Avoid this…people are listening and you are turning off potential lovers without even knowing it.

8. You don’t have a plan. Being aimless and not having a passion for something is not sexy. 

9. You are not as successful as you think. Stop bragging about what you own and how much you earn. Who gives a fuck? And kindness and respect and love are free.

10. Good hygiene and dental care go a long way. And be sure public spaces in your home are neat. Nobody likes a nasty brother.

11. You depend too much on drugs or alcohol to be social. Nobody likes a druggie or alcoholic. Well, let me rephrase that. They will fuck you and use you but not keep you.

12. You are crazy. Don’t let unresolved trauma or internalized homophobia hold you back. Seek help from a therapist, social worker or trusted clergyman.

12 thoughts on “12 Reasons Gay Men Don’t Get Sex or Relationships 

  1. Great reasons, Man. BTW, I finally went to see Moonlight. It moved me in a way I cannot explain. I can see why you have seen it a few times. Have you checked out the Q & A for Moonlight on Youtube? Have a blessed Thanksgiving!!

  2. Good tips, Immanuel. We can all try to get BETTER. The 13th tip I’d add is: As an adult you are responsible for your own happiness – and future. The ‘chase’ for a guy and possible happiness, can be exhausting. Having sex prematurely can leave you being and feeling used. Take time to walk and talk and get to really know someone new before dropping your pants. Dropping them to soon can leave with a surprise (stds) that you did not plan on.

  3. 3, 4 & 12: especially 12. I am on my way back to happy, after the deaths of my Mom & GrandMom. Yet still I rise 🌈🌈🌈🎵😉

    & #4 though: you want all of us face down, ass up for that bulldozer of urs, don’t cha? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😃😄

    HAPPY HOLIDAZE Y’ALL!

    • Sorry to hear of your mother and grandmother. May their beautiful souls continuing shining in the everlasting life hereafter. Thanks so much for following the blog and the funny comments and emoticons. Love ya man!

  4. Man, you are right on target. Lol. Agree with all of the above especially the one about exercise and losing some weight. My goal for 2017 is to lose 20 pounds and keep it off….Wish me good luck…Lots of water right? I remember you telling me that before. Lol.

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