DL Confessions Interview: Life After Porn with Aarin Driver


Aarin Driver during his porn days. Photo courtesy of terrhot.blogspot.com.

Aarin Driver during his porn days. Photo courtesy of terrhot.blogspot.com.

Former porn actor Aarin Driver didn’t go into the adult film industry to make money. Growing up he loved watching gay porn so having sex on camera was a way to fulfill a fantasy and just have fun.

“There was always a serious plan,” said Driver, 36, who was attending college and got a bachelors degree in English Arts while doing two films and scenes for DawgPound USA and PapiThugz. “It was in and out.”

That was why it was easy to walk away from the camera. Now the Phoenix, Arizona native lives in small-town York, Pa., works in the financial aid office at a college, and is planning to return to college to finish his master’s degree in education administration or counseling.

He moved to Pennsylvania from Chicago to be with his partner, a man 10 years his senior who he originally met a year out of high school.

Today, a decade after first doing porn, Driver is busy helping students secure the money they need to get an education and in the kitchen experimenting with exotic food recipes. He loves the rural Pennsylvanian lifestyle.

When he feels a yearning for the big city he is an hour or so drive from Baltimore, Washington, D.C. or Philadelphia.

He says he is content, very much in love and even contemplating marriage.

“I never thought about marriage until I got with the dude I’m with now,” said Driver, a fast talker with a deep, masculine voice.

Buddy System Porn

Driver grew up in a conservative, extremely religious family. He is the oldest of three boys.

His parents divorced and his mother remarried a man Driver said fit the stereotype of the evil stepfather. Driver’s birth father, who was black, died while he was in high school. He is proud to say he was able to comfort his sick father and hold his hand while he passed away.

Driver never discussed being gay with his family and today has a familial relationship with only one of his brothers. Gay porn was an outlet — a way to come to term with his sexuality. In fact,  Driver said he learned a lot about being gay from watching it.

Aarin Driver and friend Ian Rock entered porn together. Photo courtesy of terhott.blogspot.com.

Aarin Driver and friend Ian Rock entered porn together. Photo courtesy of terhott.blogspot.com.

Years later, when he moved to Chicago, Driver and friend Ian Rock were at a leather convention and met a director who worked with celebrated gay porn producer and drag queen performer Chi Chi LaRue.

The director liked them and Driver and Rock decided to enter the porn industry together,  make a little money or  even launch their own business.  In fact, they shot a scene together that many consider one of the hottest in gay porn. Their chemistry was so intense many fans and gay porn news outlets and bloggers assumed they were lovers.

Driver shot those rumors down. He said he and Rock were just roommates and fuck buddies. There was never a serious relationship although they still keep in touch.

Driver said for him doing porn was enjoyable. He is a natural exhibitionist and it was exciting having sex with such hot men. However, porn has a dark side — drug abuse occurs and the list of porn actors who commit suicide is long. And the industry can exploit actors, Driver said.

Although he indulged in some of the fast side of porn life Driver didn’t let it overwhelm him or keep him from his ultimate goal of a career in education.

Do porn because you love sex, not $$$

Today, he advises people who want to do porn to do it because they love sex and not because of the money. And if you worry doing porn will hinder your future career prospects don’t even think about it.

That is because once your sex acts are digitally recorded and on the Web they are out there forever, easily downloaded on anyone’s cellphone, tablet or laptop.

For the most part his straight friends and coworkers have no idea he did porn. Only gay people recognize him as that hot, slender guy with dreads who could give dick as good as he took it.

“It only really happens when I’m in that (gay) population, like at Blatino Oasis or a gay club,” he said.

But Driver has no regrets. He had a blast doing porn.

“I was young and tender and wanted to get out and continue to live my regular day life,” he said.

aarindriver2More about Aarin Driver:

Favorite Food: Pizza

Favorite Book: “The Color of Water; A Black Man’s Tribute to his White Mother” by James McBride

Favorite Films: “Freeway” starring Reese Witherspoon and “Snatch” from director Guy Ritchie

What may surprise you about him: He’s a serious Trekkie

 

 

 

10 thoughts on “DL Confessions Interview: Life After Porn with Aarin Driver

  1. Smoking hot dude. Damn if I was 25 I would have considered doing porn myself. Love it. I still have the tool tho and the looks, just I’m in my 40s not necessarily the right age, the industry is treacherous. I’m just saying, wow he’s an exception .

  2. I’m thankful for this interview. I’m glad that he was able to find a life after porn. Kudos to him building his life.

    • Yep I agree. He seems to be very nice. I’ve read so many stories of gay porn actors who burn out. It was nice to see one with a level head. I especially liked what he said about the business. Do porn if you love having sex and have an exhibitionist side. Don’t do it for the money.

  3. What is so bad about the porn industry? I thought you just go in, have sex, then leave like many people across America do an office.

    • From talking to Aarin (and I hope he will read your comment and reply), it seems like there is a negative aspect to the porn lifestyle that some people caught up in. One of those is drugs. And face it, you will not make a lot of money making gay porn because supply is far greater than demand (unlike straight porn where relatively fewer women will go into the industry). I admire Aarin and wanted to interview him because he always had a plan, went in and did his thing, and got out and went about life. I also like Roy in the next post who entered porn later after already being established in his career.

      • The main thing I can’t stand about amateur porn is the drugs. Why guys think I wanna see them sniffing something while I’m trying to ejaculate I will never understand. Sniff your poppers beforehand not while your filming.

        I do admire Aarin’s reason for why he went into porn. I’ve always had a fantasy of being in a porno. It’s not the having sex in front of people that turns me on it’s more of the camera filming it that gets me off.

      • Gimme yep drugs turn me off too. Especially methamphetamine users. And I admire Aarin too which is why it was nice to talk to him. And if you have a fantasy about being in porn consider doing amateur on Xtube. I have and you don’t have to show your face.

  4. A good guy he is. Happen to mess around a bit while in Chicago. Glad to hear he’s doing well. He’s right—-was very professional in public but a straight up FREAK behind closed doors.

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