It’s a Top World and Bottoms Just Live in It


I’m on vacation and yesterday “Van” and I went to lunch with friends on Baltimore’ Federal Hill.

During the meal I mentioned the story I had heard of a bottom who went to a sex party in the city, got some outrageously good dick from a handsome top, and clung to him half the night.

When the top decided to fuck another bottom the first bottom got angry and wanted to fight the new guy. The fracas broke up the party, which was in a hotel room, and I think hosts had to ask the dick-struck bottom to leave.

One of our buddies “Conrad,” who is a strict bottom, said he could relate. It seems for many bottoms getting good dick is hard to find and when you find it they want to hold on to it, he said.

Complicating matters is that there is a double standard in the gay world that mirrors a similar one in the heterosexual one.

A top can fuck as many men as he wants but bottoms who snag alot of dick get a reputation for being loose hoes and used up, Conrad said.

And forget about trying to forge a relationship,  which is already difficult in the gay world.

Conrad told the story of a handsome guy he hooked up with who had an 11- or 12-inch dick.

The sex was good and Conrad later texted the guy saying he just wanted to hang out. He really liked the guy’s personality.

He got a chilly response. “I only hang out weekends at the bars or clubs,” the top said.

Conrad later learned the guy gets so many hits from bottoms craving his big dick he just hits and leaves them and has no interest in developing anything deeper.

For this top the world is his oyster. Bottoms can’t even get a fish stick.

“Well I’m verse. Why don’t you try doing that more to get more play,” Van suggested.

Conrad just looked at  Van funny. “I’m a total bottom. I like what I like.”

39 thoughts on “It’s a Top World and Bottoms Just Live in It

  1. Wow, I can relate. Although I usually prefer being a top male I have tried the other because to me we should be able to please each other I however have encountered men who claim to be one when they’re really the other, and yes they play the role to get you and then slowly you began to see the real deal. I know I’m more top because all it takes for me is to see some little cute bro with some nice cakes and I’m like damn boy.. Although there are exceptional attractive top brothas too…wow! Ima kid in a candy store y’all.. Lol
    Happy new years

  2. I’m fully Versatile and I catch it from tops that want to bottom shame. It sucks that there are double standards. The last time I checked a thot is a thot. However I choose to remain sex positive. If a dude doesn’t want to fuck with me then I’m too good for him to fuck

  3. Strangely, I can relate. See, I started out bottoming, but it took 1 sex party in South Florida & a hungry Latino bottom to deflower my ‘top virginity’. I finally felt what it was like to top & nut in a condom. It was heaven.

    From then on, all I’ve done during hook ups is to slang dick. Shoot, I even got EXTRA prepared to take dick after an Xmas date last year, & before I knew what was happening, I was saddled up & mounted by my date, & he was “riding like the wind, Bullseye!”

    See, I am described by many as ‘sexy’, ‘VERY HANDSOME’, ‘good looking’, ‘charming’, ‘having a great personality’, & the list goes on and on. I don’t have a 6 pack, but I am not fat by a long shot. & I am over 6 feet tall.

    At sex parties, as soon as I get hard, a passing bottom instantly gets magnetized & drawn to my dick. I once fucked a bottom so long at a sex party, I started to attract a crowd, who were cheering me on like my very own cheerleaders. That bottom hugged & kissed me every chance he got for the rest of that that night. And I smacked that ass every time I passed by, to remind him of who put a brand on that butt.
    One bottom who LOVES to eat ass & be eaten out like a vulture got all hot & bothered once I sent him a face pic before the get down that night. He told me he was so horny, if I had flaked on him, he would have been ever so disappointed.

    At another sex party, this 1 power bottom put a condom on me with his mouth, & let me fuck him every which way. He let up for about a BRIEF 5 minutes to let another bottom get some dick, but quickly pushed him out the way to resume his Energizer bunny type humping.

    & I swear to y’all that I am not THAT big…I swear, Scouts honor **devilish grin πŸ‘ΏπŸ‘ΏπŸ‘ΏπŸ‘ΉπŸ‘ΉπŸ‘Ή** I say this even after SEVERAL bottoms & verse tops keep telling me I got a big one (esp. dem white boys).

    I say all that to say this: In have NEVER had any1 fight over me though. Not ever.
    People GOTTA realize that hook ups are meant for just that: to hook a dick into a hole, bust & bounce.
    These bottoms could have that tite-&-rite-good-good till thine Kingdom COME & these tops enuff good dick to slang from your asshole up thru your mouth: if he ain’t into you, he’s just NOT into you.

    Quality relationships are RARELY the outcome of a good GrindR meet up. The way I look at it is if I can fuck you after interacting virtually & via other means, why should I be interested in getting to know you thereafter?
    Even if we did dinner & a movie, I’m I’m finding a way to get us alone again so we can freak like rabbits.
    And this is from a guy that has played both gay sexual roles in his short life. I don’t look down on bottoms, because every top needs a culo & every culo needs an eggplant to make that salad JUST right.
    Find a way to keep hooking up with the top/bottom, & then see what can materialize afterwards.
    We all know good dick-&-ass can make you want to run down the aisle and profess your love in a heartbeat.

    Anything is possible, & u could meet the person ur heart desires after a hook up.

    Just DON’T hold ya breath.

    • I agree totally Calvin. Great comment and reading about your exploits is hot! Men are sexual …it’s hard for them to think relationship-wise. Could an answer be for folks,to just stop having casual sex and focus on dating if our relationship is what they really desire?

      • That too! When I was 19, tried the whole Imma hook up with this thug & then try to make him my boyfriend thereafter.

        Please! I got fucked several ways to Sunday and did not even get a walk to the bus stop after morning sex.

        It is what it is, & we just have to accept the facts. If you want dick-&-ass, get some of that. If you want a date/relationship, go get that.

        Can’t turn good dick-&-ass into a husband.

      • That too! When I was 19, tried the whole Imma hook up with this thug & then try to make him my boyfriend thereafter.

        Please! I got fucked several ways to Sunday and did not even get a walk to the bus stop after morning sex.

        It is what it is, & we just have to accept the facts. If you want dick-&-ass, get some of that. If you want a date/relationship, go get that.

        Can’t turn good dick-&-ass into a husband if he doesn’t so desire.

  4. I find it disgusting that tops are shaming bottoms. Are we THAT desperate as LGBT people to conform to a heteronormative society that we are trying to disgrace the same hole that brought us a good NUT?!

    Fuk outta here with that MESS!

    I find str8 men who do this HYPOCRITICAL and judgemental, to say the least. Fuck who you want, just remember the prophylaxis & other necessary precautions.

  5. Excellent comments Calvin…….. I’m a top but was intrigued to try bottom a long time ago….. I actually enjoyed bottom until I started having medical issues from bottoming. I decided not to bottom again and I can see my top skills improve over the years the more I top.

      • “Yep practice makes perfect!” I see what you did there Immanuel, lining up another bottom for that good MD wood! πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜…
        Ain’t got nothing but love for ya mayne 😘
        He’s right though Marcus, & THANKS for the compliment! I have not a problem bottoming, and these tops out here are after me like WOLVES to the prey! πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ I’m waiting on my man to come along so we can freak verse style like Immanuel & “Van” πŸ˜‰ #Mymotivations 😘

  6. Manny……. I’d like you wish you a Van a Happy and Posperous New Year!! Looking forward to reading more from your blog……..Calvin my new friend; you keep being you and don’t hurt nobody showing off your talented sexual skills. Lol

    • 😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁☺😊😜😝

      Happy 2O16! πŸŽŠπŸŽ‰πŸŽŠπŸŽ‰πŸŽŠπŸŽ‰. πŸŽŠπŸŽ‰πŸŽŠπŸŽ‰πŸŽŠπŸŽπŸŽ†πŸŽ‡πŸŽŒπŸŽπŸŽŠπŸŽŠπŸŽŠπŸŽ‰πŸŽ‡πŸŽ‡ #ForAudLangSyne

  7. immanuel. after following and reading your blogs for many years I thought it appropriate to finally just comment.
    happie new year to both yourself and van, wishing you only the best of 2016 and lots of sex…
    reading your blog has taught quite a lot and helped me grow in my sexuality and liberate me sexually.
    you have a made a mark in a life of south african (azanian) gay/sgl boy and im grateful…
    Looking forward to your 2016 entries…ase

  8. Have never heard of a guy actively keeping the competition out of his top man’s line of vision. That might say more about me then it does about the guy’s I’ve put my dick in though, ha ha. Just tonight though, a friend suggested the reason my guy went with me to a birthday party, last Friday in Crown Heights, was because he thought there might be someone new to distract me. So who knows?

    Any person who shames or talks shit on what another does in private is a jealous, judgmental asshole, and last time I checked, there were enough of them. Sexy bottom men who want pipe make this world worth living in. I got no problem praising them and what they love.

  9. I’m verse but I top more because bottoms like me more. I can’t take dick on a regular that’s the first thing. If I’m not feeling you 100 percent I can’t take dick at all. I really have to be turned on 100 percent to bottom. I don’t need much to top. Just an attraction.

    Tops do like to take on the roll of being a reg straight nigga. They talk down about bottoms but they need bottoms to have sex. What is weirder is bottoms trash other bottoms for being bottoms. I don’t understand either logic.

    I think all gay men at one point wanted to get fucked. I think tops became tops because they can’t take dick, taking dick make them feel less of a man or they have a very masculine look and they are exspected to be a top so they don’t want to disappoint. The only way I will fuck with a top is if he eat ass or suck dick. I don’t fuck with tops that say I just fuck. That’s bul shit. If one of these straight niggas out here that’s street and look good wanted there dick suck a β€œstrict top” would suck they dick. Nobody can’t tell me nothing different.

    Being verse is tricky. It’s times I want some dick but I try to meet verse buls instead of tops. With a verse bul you can flip flop or not always have to try and take the dick. But most of the times the verse buls see me and my swag and the verse shit go out the window. They want me to top all the time. And if I hint I want some dick they will have the audacity to say I’m really a bottom.

    I have one little homie who is verse. He got a masuline look and a big ass dick. He fucked me like twice. When I tried to fuck him he said he don’t get fucked by verse guys only strict tops. He said what he look like getting fucked by somebody who get fucked. But I’m like your verse, you get fucked too. Smh

    Then I had a threesome with somebody who I use to talk too. I had a threesome with him and his boyfriend. Both are verse. So I’m putting in work they having a good ole time with my dick. When it was time to give me some dick nobody was up for the job. They only was there for my dick. I guess they fuck enough bottoms together.

    This life style is very confusing.

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