Joining Forces

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Well, it’s official. My partner “Van” has sold his home and has moved in with me.

He is always at my house anyway so it’s merely a formality.

So far we seem to blend. His furniture is fitting in perfectly, just like it was meant to be in my home.

I love to cook, and he loves to eat. He likes to clean the kitchen while I prefer puttering around in my garden. So there is already a division of labor.

We even got a kitten — a rambunctious female orange tabby who loves to pounce on and bite our arms, legs and feet in the middle of the night. So you see we are gay men but we still like having some pussy around.

Still this is a major step. Will we get on each other’s nerves?

Van is a part of my household now – my home is now his home. When friends and family come by he will be there and I will have to explain who he is. And no I won’t say just my roommate.

So I’m taking another step out of the closet.


31 thoughts on “Joining Forces

  1. I’m very happy to see that you and your partner Van are taking the next step further into your relationship. Congratulations Immanuel, when you find someone who clicks with you it’s rare and precious Bruh.

  2. Sometimes Why? and Why not? are about equal, but in this I think Why not? is a much better response if and when your anxiety rears its ugly head. Sexual compatibility alone can be reason enough and you have listed many other ways to measure your love for each other. Be his man. Let him be your man. Congratulations to both of you.

  3. Good move. It just takes compromise, knowing when to be together, and when it’s time to take a break. Best wishes on this move. As far as family is concerned don’t let them sweat you. You both have a right to live your genuine lives. Some may not approve, but this their problem not yours.

  4. Congratulations!! And yes, you will get on each others nerves……it goes with the territory. Enjoy yourself and don’t sweat the small stuff!! Love and Blessings. 🙂

  5. Congrats! If you encounter any of the “oh, he’s gonna be there!?” type from both family and friends after you have already explained what the deal is.. just remember, Its yo house and they dont have to be invited in.

  6. Congrats to you both. Relationships take work in order to keep them going and the two of you appear to have put in the time to make yours succeed.

    “Will he get on my nerves?” you ask. Certainly. And you will get on his too. It’s how you deal with each other when that occurs and how you move forward from it that makes you two successful where others have failed.

    BTW: Since he moved in with you it’s no longer “my house”. It is now “our house”. The title to the property may be in your name at the County Recorder’s Office, but the two of you are living in it together and making it a home. It seems like a small thing, but if you keep referring to it as “my house” it may cause you to “get on his nerves”.

    Out of curiosity, how long have you two been together now?

  7. I had no idea this was achievable. This is a rare sight among gay men but pretty common among lesbians. You give the rest of us hope Immanuel.

    I fantasize about playing house with another man. One tip I have is if you two get on each others nerves, go to separate rooms. I always imagine me and the boyfriend(of my dreams) have separate bedrooms we go to when we argue or just want some alone time.

    So when will you guys start looking for a third to become a polyamorous couple?

  8. Finally the home you perhaps desired for a very long time. If both you enter this new phase in your life in good physical health, you are way ahead of the game. They keys to is preserve your health and support each other in healthy behaviors, healthy eating, exercise and regular medical monitoring. Enjoy your new life together.

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