The Gangbang Theory


Gangbangs are a popular category in gay porn. Often it's the stereotypical set-up of a white bottom being ravaged by a room of big-dicked black men. Photo courtesy of smutty.com.

Gangbangs are a popular category in gay porn. Often it’s the stereotypical set-up of a white bottom being ravaged by a room of big-dicked black men. Photo courtesy of smutty.com.

An acquaintance in Virginia hit me up Sunday and asked when “Van” and I would have our next sex party.

“I don’t know. We don’t really plan them too often,” I answered.

“Well, let me know,” he texted back. “The next time you have one I want to drive up from Alexandria and get gangbanged.”

That comment put me in a strange place. Like I’m supposed to have a sex party just to fulfill his fantasy?

“Hey I can’t control what people do at parties – the sex just kinda flows,” I answered. “If you want a gangbang I suggest you save up and hire two escorts to do that. But have a friend join you to make sure you are safe. I know guys who do that.”

He didn’t answer.

People ask me to arrange gangbangs for them all the time. Like I can just wave a magic wand and turn a pumpkin into a coach, hook Cinderella up with a ball gown and glass slippers, and make a roomful of big dick tops ready to fuck appear.

The thing that gets me about these requests is that most guys who ask for it are not in the best shape or the most attractive, including the man from Virginia.

The question got me so peeved that I texted my buddy “Freddy” (read more about him in “Never Bite the Ass or Dick that Feeds You”). I asked him if bottoms also hit him up and asked him to set up gangbangs. And Freddy said yes they do.

In fact, he has arranged for bottoms to take on three or four tops but he makes sure the bottom is attractive and that he has had sex with them to make sure they can take dick. Because there is nothing worse than to bring a bunch of horny tops over and the bottom can’t take dick — it’s a real mood killer.

This whole question of gangbangs got me curious so Sunday afternoon while I watched football (did you see that Redskins versus Tampa Bay game?I) I Googled the psychology behind them to find out why some gay men crave gangbangs. Here is what I learned:

  • Many men and women fantasize about giving up control and letting someone else take the reins, particularly people who have demanding, high pressure careers where they have to manage others or people who have a lot of familial responsibilities. I notice many of the men who request gangbangs are professionals.
  • Rape is a common fantasy for women and men. Some people get an adrenaline rush from the thought of being overpowered or in danger. Add sex to that feeling and it can become downright intoxicating for some people.
  • Some white men get aroused by giving up control to a person of color. This is still a taboo act for some. The act can allow them to work out guilt about racist feelings or fulfill the stereotypical, racist fantasy of being taken by big-dicked black “mandingos.”
  • Being the sole bottom in a group of men can make a man feel extra desirable and boost self-esteem. All those dicks in the room are hard because of you. Everybody wants to fuck you. You become the center of attention. Notice when men advertise for gangbangs on hookup websites that they stipulate that no verse or bottom men join. That’s because they want no competition.
  • For those into raw sex having men ejaculate into them can be very arousing. Some men get off on the look, smell, taste and feel of nutt while others feel that having another man ejaculate into them is the ultimate form of male bonding.
  • Laziness. Face it — there are some men who don’t want to do a lot of work sexually, such as foreplay. They just want to lay on their back or stomach, put that ass up and get fucked and done.

Freddy, another buddy named “Everett” and I agreed that doing gang bangs can be boring if you are one of the tops. Like, who wants to stand around jacking off waiting to get used ass.

Everett told me the story of how a bottom guy arranged for multiple tops to come in and fuck him at a downtown Baltimore hotel.

“I went and fucked the guy but it wasn’t great at all,” Everett said. “His ass was loose — no walls — and the guy really wasn’t that nice looking. But the top that fucked him and was leaving when I walked in — now that brother was fine!”

Readers, how do you feel about gangbangs? Have you participated in one as a top or bottom? What was it like?

 

 

 

17 thoughts on “The Gangbang Theory

  1. I participated in one at a bathhouse in Tampa, Florida. The bottom was phoine and could take dick. While he was getting fucked from behind, he would suck on the guy waiting to hit it. I was fortunate to go first, tee hee….I was the only one suited up…..the rest went up in him raw.

  2. I haven’t experienced a gangbang like the pic you posted reminding me of the typical gay porn like you said the white bottom gets his ass plummeted by sexy built big dick brothas( damn it got hot in here…whew .lol) I am not saying I wouldn’t participate just I’m down. The closest thing I’ve had was a couple threesomes.. It’s all good, if everyone is really into bringing satisfaction. .

  3. In my younger, single days I was in the middle of a number of 3 ways and I bottomed for 5 or 6 guys in a gang bang on one occasion.

    Back then and still today, I prefer being with one guy who I can concentrate on giving pleasure to. I love to take dick, but I know that it’s my responsibility to pleasure the top who is giving me so much pleasure. I want to be focused on maximizing his pleasure and I can’t do that if I’m not fully focused on him and his body language.

    To me the gang bang was a pain in the ass to organize and ultimately it didn’t live up to my fantasies. The 3 ways were usually with couples who were looking to spice up their relationship. In all but one case, that probably meant their relationship was already in trouble – a situation which once led to a screaming match between the two boyfriends because one felt left out (awkward!).

    After that fiasco, I made it clear to my 3 way partners that I was to be the play toy in the middle for BOTH of them to use. There would be no kissing of the play toy and since the play toy was built for heavy use, there would be no sitting back and watching while one partner used the play toy exclusively. If one guy was hanging back, I’d grab him by the balls and pull him back into the action, or I would get up, get dressed and leave. Homie don’t play!

    Now I’m married, so it’s all in my sordid past. And no……we have NEVER done a three way with an outsider.

    • Sordid past? Why do folks always make sex out as this dirty thing? You were young and exploring your boundaries. Now you are living a different life. And many couples who 3sum have been together for years.

      • The 3 way couple who had been together the longest were the most fun for me to play with. That’s also where I got the whole “play toy” concept that I referenced above. All they wanted was a play toy to use. It was fun as hell and it felt GREAT!

        The “sordid past” reference was just a joke. I don’t regret a thing that I did. I was making up for lost time after I came out and my slut phase helped me hone my skills and figure out what I really liked sexually. It’s not something I typically brag about in polite conversation – that’s all.

  4. I’ve done a gangbang as a bottom and as a top. I enjoyed it more as a top because as a bottom let’s face it some guys think they can just dog you out, which is why I don’t do gangbang.

    • Yeah, gangbangs can be kind of pathetic, especially when its a tired bottom who just sticks his ass in the air and waits for random dick. There really isn’t much art to it. You might as well just be a blow-up doll.

  5. To each his own. It was something I had to try and enjoy it. Like live porn with all the sounds and erotic smells. Upclose looks and advantage is that you can join in. Lol

  6. In response to Everette’s comment about the bottom being lose, could that have been the bad experience of a lose bottom? Not to air out my business, but I’ve experimented with a few guys and the fourth guy couldn’t tell how many guys were before him or how big they were. A gang banged would be fun, but I am okay with a busy night because it makes it more pleasurable for the third or fourth guy, and I like a top who is pleased..

  7. I wanna say the reason I’ve always wanted to get gangbanged is because I’m sexually frustrated. From not getting my sexual needs filled from an early age, I’ve become frustrated to the point that I just want it all in one night. And what better way to take out your sexual frustration than getting gangbanged.

    I’m only speaking for me tho. Others might have different reasons for wanting to get gangbanged. I enjoy being submissive and the ultimate submission I feel would be getting dominated by multiple men. I’ve never gone thru with it and probably never will. I don’t know why but I just haven’t really been feeling the idea lately. I’ve been very just one(person) or none(at all). That’s not to say I’m getting dick on the regular. I’m not. Far from it. I’m talking more fantasy wise.

    I’m still very sexually inexperienced.

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