If you are not watching, check out OWN’s three-part Iyanla: Fix My Life episode on black gay ministers who decide to come out of the closet.
When it comes to equal rights and acceptance of same-sex loving people, the black church is years behind the time. This comes despite the fact gays are running all up and through all levels of black congregations.
Hell, a gay minister in Baltimore I know who is married to a woman (I call him Preacher Man) said he couldn’t wait to the get to the National Baptist Convention in Memphis earlier this month so he could freak with men after the worship services and seminars were over.
“Those brothers treated me well in Memphis,” he told me after he got back.
So the hate so-called Christian black people display toward gay people is so hypocritical.
I commend Iyanla for bringing this issue to light although one of the men on the show, Mitchell, already came out to his wife and separated.
I just don’t see the need for Mitchell to confess to his wife that he had five affairs with men while they were married. Iyanla says he needs to do so to heal. But the separation was painful enough — why pour salt on the wound and cause his wife additional pain?
I think for the other pastor Derek it’s more of an open secret. He looks very gay. It will be interesting to see how his confession about his sexuality affects his great work with his ministry and his relationship with his homophobic family.
And to read more on my blog about this issue check out: