Remember my acquaintance “Ronald,” the guy who has had several affairs with professional football players?
I forgot to mention he is extremely picky about his sexual partners, probably because he is
used to getting fucked by professional athletes who fans worship because of their perfect bodies and prowess on the field.
He demands the guys he meets have a big dick, be tall, in good shape, and eat his ass well. And he constantly bugs me to connect him with guys like that who I know because he is new in town, works long hours, and really doesn’t have time to mingle as much as he should.
So against my better judgement I connected him with “Freddy,” a tall, sexy guy I originally met way back in college. Freddy is one of the nicest men I know and his bedroom game is top-notch. When he gets going he can literally throw foreplay and fuck for hours.
A few weeks ago Ronald hit me up, again asking if I knew any good tops in the Baltimore area.
“Hey, didn’t I connect you with my friend Freddy?,” I asked.
“Yeah I did but he couldn’t keep up with me. He is sorry. He got winded. Do you know any other big dick, tall tops like you who like to fuck?”
“Nope Ronald. I’m mostly a top myself so I’m not really looking for other tops.”
Ronald’s statement surprised me. Freddy a bad lover? That didn’t sound even remotely right.
So I called Freddy to get the truth.
“He is a complete lunatic,” Freddy said.
The black gay world is relatively small and men tend to develop a network of friends for support or guidance. That is why it is important you treat people with respect because you never know who knows whom. Photo courtesy of nktours.ning.com.
Freddy explained that he fucked Ronald two times and Ronald kept bugging him for more dick. But the sex was one-sided — Ronald is one of those bottoms who will suck dick a little but really wants to lay back, get his ass eaten, and get fucked, and fucked, and fucked, and fucked.
So Freddy got bored with it and starting saying no to Ronald’s requests to come visit. Which clearly upset Ronald, who bad mouthed Freddy to me.
“His problem is he is strange and I really didn’t enjoy fucking him,” Freddy said.
To prove his point that Ronald had lied and was still trying to get him Freddy sent me a screenshot of recent text messages Ronald had sent him. The text messages clearly showed that Ronald was pressing “Freaky Freddy” for another taste of his big dick.
I see gay men make Ronald’s mistake all the time. It’s a big mistake that one should avoid at all costs. The gay world is small and the black gay world is even smaller. You have to be careful what you say about people because stuff gets out and you can quickly earn a bad reputation.
It upset me that Ronald would lie about a close friend. Freddy is part of my gay support system and has become close to me and my partner “Van.” He has come over to game parties at my place, met my daughter, and we take time to grab drinks or a meal out with each other every few months.
And I have attended an event at a gay organization of which he is a member and donated to its cause.
So Ronald literally bit the hand that fed him. You can’t be a shitty person and expect people to help you get dates, let alone fuck buddies. And Ronald should know better — he is over 40 years old.
However Freddy and I theorized that since Ronald moved here from Atlanta maybe he is behaving like some gay men do there. I have heard Atlanta is a very messy place if you fall into the wrong circles.
A few days ago Ronald texted me again, asking me to contact Freddy for him since Freddy was ignoring his texts. I know Freddy is dating someone now and spending a lot of time with them.
“He is dating someone pretty seriously now,” I texted Ronald.
“OK,” he answered.
I shook my head. Freddy is a great catch. Ronald might have been the one Freddy was dating now if he wasn’t so messy.