This has been a historic week…


Georgia residents Larry Carter, star of the web series "The Boyz Next Door" and Antoine Nolan Carter had to travel to Washington, D.C. to get married. Now same-sex couples around the nation won't have to travel to states where same-sex marriage is legal, thanks to the U.S. Supreme Cort. Photo courtesy of Discoveryingmeallday blog.

Georgia residents Larry Carter, star of the web series “The Boyz Next Door,” and Antoine Nolan Carter had to travel to Washington, D.C. to get married. Now same-sex couples around the nation won’t have to travel to states where same-sex marriage is legal, thanks to the U.S. Supreme Cort. Photo courtesy of Discoveryingmeallday blog.

I have to admit the mass shooting in Charleston, S.C. had me reeling. Would this racial hate never end?

Then historic events starting transpiring. You could see God on the move.

Southern states, after decades of hardcore resistance, started moving to take down that hateful Confederate flag after photos were revealed of the shooter sporting the Stars and Bars.

Then Walmart and other retailers yanked Confederate flag merchandise off their shelves.

Maybe, just maybe this nation is now ready to have a serious discussion about addressing entrenched racism although it is a shame Trayvon Martin, the members of Emanuel AME Church, and many others had to be martyrs to get us to this place.

Then the U.S. Supreme Court upheld the Affordable Care Act so millions of lower income Americans do not have to make the choice between paying a medical bill or paying for rent or food. Plus the court yesterday upheld a provision of the Fair Housing Act to prevent housing discrimination.

And today the Supreme Court legalize same-sex marriage in all 50 states!

My partner “Van” and I have discussed marriage. It’s the next logical choice if our relationship continues and we merge households as planned. But now if we do we won’t have to worry about living in a state that does not recognize a marriage made in another.

The Charleston tragedy is still on my mind and I pray for the victims, their survivors and our nation. But this week has given me more hope that ultimately love does prevail over hate.

Q: Hey my single readers, now that same-sex marriage is legal in all 50 states will you get married?

29 thoughts on “This has been a historic week…

  1. Hey Immanuel, it was a great suprise to open this post and see one of my former community member’s picture. Fun to see how small a world it can be by seeing Larry and Antoine here. Of course, I only know them from community meetings and facebook rather than their web series.

    We got married last year after 16 years together so I can’t vote on your poll.

  2. When I woke up this morning and found out about what SCOTUS decided, I think I’ve cried at least once an hour since! lol real talk I barely made it through the video I just posted about it. We truly live in progressive times; and while there is still a long way to go, Same-Sex Marriage being legalized is an indicator of a pivotal moment in our history as a society and a country.

    Check me out! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lOi45mBcAY4

    -_Nayquan

    • Awww great video. Thanks for sharing. Wish I was there to give you a big hug. Have a good time celebrating tonight and order the gayest drink you can and have one for me. Love ya!

  3. It’s too late for me Immanuel but today brings hope to me that my son will one day marry the man that he loves.

  4. I always wanted to get married and have a little girl but that was with a woman, now that its legal in every state for gay men to marry and I find a man who wants more than my butt I would say yes it if was asked and I/we had a deep connection and willing to work hard on our marriage.

  5. Yeah,The SCOTUS has really come through for people this week. This week will surely go down in history. I am happy that people can now get married legally,maybe the tide will begin to turn.

  6. I’m so happy that we have the option now to marry. I’d only do it If I knew in my heart of hearts He was the one. Long Relationships are rare between gay men, especially being black gay men, I’ve been asked what would I do?
    I said IDK at this point, I still have feelings for another asshole, who for some odd reason plaques my thoughts ,I need to let it go, I know. I’m only doing it once and for all with the true love of my life, whom I haven’t met yet

  7. Hello Immanuel,
    You ask the question the do any of us plan on getting married to the same sex being it’s legal in all 50 states now. I want to pose a question to you. You been on both sides of the fence in regard to relationships with a man and married to a woman. Is there any difference? I never been in a relationship with a dude and wonder would I ever want to be married to a dude. On the outside looking in I kinda think it might be fun to be married to a real masculine football loving dude. I been on many vacations with my wife and also been to weekend overnight sporting events with my male friends. I always have more fun with the dudes. Lol. The clichΓ© ” men are from mars” to me means that men tend to think alike so I’m thinking out loud that being married to a dude might be even better. I know it depends on the person and all that good stuff but I’m intrigued to hear your response being you kinda been there. πŸ™‚

    • Great question Marcus. Yes, being with a guy is different than a woman although please don’t overgeneralize what I’m about to write. Because I was only married to one woman so I can’t speak for how all women are. And I’ve only been in a relationship with a few men and not all. Every relationship, no matter the gender, varies. With a man there can be more camaraderie and a sense of hanging around with a friend. Men also tend to be more open and realistic about sex. However, being with a man can have drawbacks. Some men tend to be less affectionate and less emotional and have a tendency to be loners, which can be hard on a relationship. Some men are also competitive with each other, which can put a damper on a relationship if both partners are trying to outdo each other professionally or financially.

  8. I love the sound and the feel of progression. Now that we have marriag equality, I feel marriage is marriage hell. Why should it be labeled Gay marriage? I do plan on getting married to the man I love soon.

  9. I will likely, and begrudgingly, get married, if my guy will have me. Love the man, but the only reason we would go legal is because he is going to retire with a pension in 8 or so years, after putting in his 25 on the job. Should something happen to him, the only way his daughters will have access to the pension is if he and I marry and I dole it out to them. Fucking laws.

    It’s about time this fucking country addressed the institutional racism in the South and beyond. Fuck those people and their Confederate flags. Should they wonder what to do with all that are left over, I’ve got a suggestion on where they can put them.

  10. CONGRATS ALL AROUND U.S.! πŸŽŠπŸŽ‡πŸŽ‡πŸŽ‰πŸŽ†πŸŽ‰πŸŽŠπŸŽ‡πŸŽ‰ I am so thrilled about ALL the developments that have occurred since the start of the year. Long live Obama, & LONG LIVE #PROGRESS!

    No. I am SO proud of my #LGBTQI brethren & sistren for the opportunities that they have been afforded, but at this current time, at 26, I DO NOT desire marriage. It is just not my cup of tea. Maybe the more I age, my mindset will change. But right now, NO.

    Immanuel, Van: WHY ruin that seemingly GREAT arrangement that y’all have?

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