The Body Nazis

“Andy” asked to come to one of my and Van’s sex parties and I said, “Sure, no problem.”

“Do you have a door policy?,” he texted.


“I mean do you only let in muscular or in-shape guys?”

“No man,” I texted back. “Van and I let in all types because there is something for everybody.”

Andy showed up. He was a tall, slightly heavy, dark-skinned bottom. About 220 pounds. His underwear was not particularly sexy and his looks were average.

But homeboy turned the party out. Within 20 minutes Andy was on his knees sucking dick and he gave the best blow-job I have had in awhile (you know I had to sample). He even pulled out some oil and gave guys massages, which turned him on I heard.

“Man I think I’m falling in love,” one of my friend’s said while Andy was on his knees eating and slurping on his uncut, red dick like a fried chicken leg from Popeyes. “Can I marry you?”

Andy sent Van and I a kind thank-you note on Adam4Adam a week after the party, thanking us for letting him in. He said at many parties the “Body Nazis”  at the door turn him away because he doesn’t have the “look.” He is not muscular, or handsome, or light skinned, or have six-pack abs or a nine-inch peter.

Sometimes I really feel for heavier gay men who are judged more for their appearance. Photo courtesy of

Sometimes I really feel for heavier gay men who are judged more for their appearance. Photo courtesy of

Now that I am having sex parties I am running into this Body Nazi attitude a lot, but from guests. The things people say — and I mean mature, middle aged black gay men — astound me with their insensitivity, meanness, selfishness, and egotism.

For instance there is a bottom who moved here from the South for a job. He is brown-skinned and handsome but not really all that.

But when I invited him to the party he insisted all the guests be tall, in-shape, with good size dicks or he wasn’t coming. I replied, “Well, thanks for asking but I guess we won’t be seeing you.”

“Good, I don’t want to hang around a bunch of fat, nasty, stinky niggers anyway.”

I was stunned. I fucked this dude one time and he was forever sweating me to come back. I took what he said personally because he insulted some of my friends who come to my parties without even meeting them. Some of them are heavy or have bellies. But trust and believe they can throw some good sex.

“So I’m fat and nasty now?” I responded.

“Nah baby, sorry. I want another one-on-one with you. Just us two in bed for a few hours.”

I will NEVER fuck him again.

Van and my parties are becoming popular — I mean folks call and text to say thanks for hosting such a welcoming and nice party. One of them was this muscular versatile dude who I heard busted a nutt six times in one night! And he was getting fucked by dudes who were no way near as buff as him, so obviously he wasn’t a Body Nazi.

I have to be absolutely honest. I do not like morbidly obese men. Give me a sexy football player dude weighing about two fifty and a little belly and we can roll. Still this Body Nazism among gay men troubles me. I mean it’s so superficial. There is more to a man than his looks or dick size.

But everywhere you look — in gay newspapers, magazines, pornography etc., blogs etc. this same image is pushed at us. A 20-something gay man with no body fat and abs and a nice package in his underwear. Very few people aged 25 and older look like that! It’s a fantasy.

Most of the men I roll with are grown and fully established in their careers. Don’t you think by now they would realize that and stop judging people for the way God made them?



23 thoughts on “The Body Nazis

  1. Ugh! That self-loathing projection shit is soooo 10th grade… I’m not built like Professor Klump or nothin, but I could stand to shed a pound or…ten… But I’ll be damned if a nigga tell me that I’m not attractive enough to fuck with. Ugh…nigga, the main objective is to bust a couple nuts; I’m not running for prom king or something. Suck your own dick then -_-… It grinds my gears when people try to hold you to a standard they don’t even meet. I may have a lil pot belly, but you don’t even have a car… (I’m venting, pay me no mind). I can lose weight, but they’ll always be basic niggas. Do yourself a favor n fuck with the 215lbs-and up Club!


  2. Most of the guys that complain are sitting at home waiting for ‘Mr. Wonderful’ to come through. I love the big and sexy!!

  3. Hey Immanuel, thank Heavens that there are good looking, inshape guys like you with generous spirits who are accepting of diversity. You know, it really gets my goat just how petty and small minded some folks in the “family” are. How do you expect the World to embrace or even accept you as you are while you are so judgemental and jingoistic to other folks like you?? How the Hell now???

    • Fortune you are so right. Van and I have to be honest. When large guys ask to come to our parties we really have discussion before letting them come. So far we have accepted everyone.

  4. I get this a lot, but with the age thing….until they meet me… I meet them just to dispel the myth about age… Half the the time I look better than most of the guys that perpetuate this garbage, and then that’s when they start to sweat me… Another thing that bugs the hell out of me is the sugar-daddy thing! Just because I’m the elder doesn’t mean you can’t come out of your pocket…. Sigh. I’m about to retire from gay sex…. It just isn’t worth the hassle…. And kudos to you guys for what you’re doing!

  5. I have commented on this before, but here goes once more:

    I got MY BEST NUT in my 2O-something years on this Earth from a fat Black man. Luckily FOR ME, he lied that he only wanted to give head when we met online, and didn’t show his body pics. He was just hosting a glory hole anyways, so it really didn’t matter to me. I went in, and this guy took a quick glance at my tool and 2 LICKS of my head and was ready to fuck after that. I am thankful to this VERY DAY that I had a condom with me that night in my upper left pocket, because I would have missed out on THE BEST FUCK of my life.

    When I tell you he let me get up in his guts, we started with him standing up, then he crouched down, then the floor was his resting place for the duration of our play time. When I nutted, I felt like the Earth and the Heavens were shaking and rumbling. I was so SPENT, I collapsed in a sweaty heap when we were done. He actually shook my hands and said “THANK YOU, that was some good dick”. My word against y’all’s (possible) disbelief ;0) :0D

    What men looking like me miss out on in men looking like Andy is a GOOD FUCKING TIME via a TIGHT asshole. When dat ass grips you, it’s like good music: it makes you feel a natural high. This high is made even worse when that ass is receptive of yo dick and won’t relent until you’ve had enough.

    I have been a chubby chaser ever since. I won’t commit to one relationship-wise based on my preferences, but ask not twice if I won’t be there at the drop of a hat when they text “CUM OVER DADDY”. #bootycallhoe


  6. There is a comment gurgling in my spirit, but I told you I am putting myself in a self imposed time out from comments…and lord knows I want to say something on this and these comments, but I will not.
    And Yes, I get this is technically a comment, but this is my comment on having no comment, so…No Comment.

    But Immanuel I want you to know, that deep down inside I do have a comment, but officially no comment.

  7. I commend you guys for including imperfect peeps to your parties. Everybody have feelings as well as desires. Some people body changes over the years more than others. I was too skinny as a teenager and when I gained weight over the years it was for the better. Nevertheless I am still the same person.

  8. These sound like people who spend 6 hours a day at the gym and have nothing to talk about when you meet up. Glad Andy wised up and made his way to your party. Hand him a book next time, maybe.

  9. Yes!! It’s so much foolishness & prejudice amongst gays it’s not even funny! I’m like you Immanuel, I don’t have to have a muscular, porn type guy. All I need/is a little definition. Nice shoulders & maybe a slight stomach. I don’t like very heavy guys myself but I’m not as superficial and judgemental as some. Great post & point of view

  10. I am very pleased to see this post because I am not a supermodel, Hollywood actor, athletic type or bodybuilder guy. I am an average guy with average looks and a little belly that is sometimes rejected by guys on the internet (A4A, Jack’d, Grindr) because I do not have those drop dead looks and body. But i am a good person that focuses on the needs of others ahead of my own needs. Immanuel, to hear that you and Van are being an exception to the other superficial gay men that I have encountered is extremely commendable. Thanks for giving this average country boy some hope!

  11. Thank about it. These same guys was probably teased and judged all they life. Now they get into a life where people in the same boat as them so now they get off doing it to other people. It makes them feel in control.

    I like a nice body and handsome face I mean who don’t. But if you have a nasty personality then I won’t fuck with you and most of them do. And then be lazy fucks. But see my shade is real!!!! You can look like a million bucks but when u leave me, you will leave feeling like five bucks. That’s why I like low maintenance men. I like all body types. I like ugly guys also. As long as u clean and down to earth. But u can’t be heavy and ugly. One or the other.

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