“You know Immanuel, you are really just a ho (whore) running round fucking these boys,” my friend “Wally” said a couple of days ago.
“Nah, Wally, you are wrong. A ho gets paid for their services. Other than that time I got paid to escort I have sex for free. That really makes me a slut. Get it right Negro.”
“And by the way Wally what makes you so innocent?,” I continued. “You hook up with guys online and go on OoVoo jacking off on cam with 10 other guys at the same time. So why aren’t you a ho or a slut?”
Wally quickly changed the subject. He is not so bright or introspective. I know he didn’t want to get into an intellectual sparring match with me.
America is a strange society. We use sex to sell everything from body wash to BMWs. And we consume pornography more than any other nation. But we still have a schizophrenic, unwholesome attitude toward sex.
In the heterosexual world a man can fuck as many women as he wants but if a woman chooses to explore her sexuality with several men she is labeled “loose, slut, whore, slattern, skank, cum dump…” the list goes on and on.
The same double standard exists in the gay community to a lesser extent. A top can fuck as many dudes as he wants but bottoms who get around are talked about, possibly because we project straight male/female roles onto gay tops and bottoms.
“Man, that bottom’s asshole must be as wide as the Grand Canyon he takes on so many dicks,” I’ve heard folks whisper.
The other thing about the gay community I hate are people who get a lot of ass and dick but try to act sanctified like they are not out there. That just reflects how hypocritical and ashamed we are of sex, which is as natural and necessary for most people as eating, breathing or sleeping.
I’m a big ol’ slut and proud of it. However, I don’t think of myself in terms of the original meaning of the word, which dates back to before the 1400’s and first meant a slovenly, untidy woman or man.
I live my life more according to the book “The Ethical Slut” by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy. These women sought to cast a new meaning to a derogatory term.
To them a slut is a person who believes sex is a healthy thing that is good for you. The authors embrace a non-monogamous lifestyle as long as rules are followed so everyone is above-board and no feelings get hurt.
In time I may be more open to a relationship but I think from the beginning we will have to be open about sexuality. And I would really like someone I can play with sexually with other people because I’m not jealous or possessive like that.
Because hey, I’m a slut and proud of it.