I’m going to catch some heat for writing this blog entry. But hey, I don’t care. I have to get this off my chest.
Gay men divide themselves into myriad categories — tops, bottoms, versatile, versatile tops, versatile bottoms. Often the lines blur — you will find a guy who is mostly a top who will flip and take dick from certain guys. It all depends on the mood, the unexplainable chemistry that occurs between two men when they get down.
In my journey from the straight to gay world I’ve run across all types. And the type that I’m beginning to detest are so called “power bottoms”- or guys who are exclusively into taking dick for as long as they can. To me it seems that bottoms like this believe the world revolves around their puckered assholes.
“I want to sit on that dick,” they would text me when I visited gay hookup Web sites. “I want that big black dick.”
“My azz is tite papi, come loosen it up.”
“Come fuck me. Call 917-555-2989,” another would write.
No flirting. No foreplay. No conversation. It’s all about getting my big dick hard and into their asses at warp speed.
There is a bottom guy I have fucked who is handsome as hell — tall, muscled, and very dark skinned with a shadow beard. “Sebastian” looks like a gay man’s dream. But he is a typical selfish bottom. It’s all about his pleasure, He gives little play or passion. It’s all about getting a dick in his ass so he can experience that fine line of pain and pleasure that is anal sex.
Less than five minutes after you walk in the door Sebastian will turn his ass up in the air and assume the position. I guess he thinks his big, muscle ass is so appealing it will get any gay dick hard in seconds.The rest of the session is about fucking him. When you get tired of fucking him he will urge you to stick one finger, two finger, and eventually half your hand up his ass.
His ass’ capacity astounds me. Where does it all go?
“Next time Immanuel bring more of your friends with big dicks so y’all can take turns fucking me,” he said.
“Ummm,” I think to myself. “I don’t think so. I don’t want to inflict this boredom on anybody else.”
What a lot of bottoms like Sebastian don’t realize is that good sex is not about just getting a dick hard and fucking it. It’s so much more. It’s flirting, foreplay, caressing, kissing, massage. To me, fucking someone has become optional or the icing on top of the cake of an intense session.
Another problem is population of bottoms is so large they are a cheap commodity. You can get ass just walking down the street. Oh, you didn’t know that? Just read some of my blog entries.So in order to set themselves apart bottoms really have to have some skills. My advice to “power” bottoms:
- Keep your body in shape. With so many bottoms on the market being fit is an asset. There is nothing sadder than an older, fat bottom with a stretched ass and a size 44 waist.
- Get off your back and close your legs for a minute. Learn how to pleasure your man in ways besides straight fucking. Try massage. Nipple play etc. Don’t insist on fucking at the top of a session, let it build up to that.
- Invest in a good dildo and learn how to use it. Because with the shortage of good tops you are going to need a toy when the real thing is not in reach.