Wonder Woman Drawers: Or What I Don’t Like About Gay Dudes



Okay, I’m on a gay hookup Web site today while I’m working, checking out the sights. And there is this guy wearing drawers that look like Wonder Woman’s costume — he could have stitched them pantaloons from the American flag.

His flat, pancake ass faced the camera and he leaned over so viewers could get a better look at that hot mess. I couldn’t resist joning.

“Where did you get the Wonder Woman drawers?,” I emailed him jokingly.

He didn’t get the drift.

“Ooh, do you like them,” he emailed back a few minutes later. “What are you doing? You want to meet?”

Okay, I play in the gay and straight world so I can talk about both sides. This guy demonstrated one of the things I hate about gay black guys. Some have egos so big they don’t know they are looking like fools. He really thought he looked hot wearing those girly bloomers.

True, gay men have to have egos. If you grow up with kids teasing you and Aunt Bunny mumbling you will burn in Hell for loving dick, you have to develop a hard outer shell — an ego of steel to deflect the bullets. But some gay men think they are cute and they are…NOT.

Check out the names some pick for their online profiles. “RedNSexxy”…”KuteBoi”… “TopsDeLite.” Come the fuck on. If you have to call YOURSELF sexy and cute you aren’t. Here are some more things about gay people I don’t like.

— MATERIALISM: A lot of gay black men are into what you wear, what you drive and how your house is decorated. This is shallow but understandable. Many gay men will live alone or with just a partner for most of their lives. So they tend to put a lot more into what they have. Plus they have more disposable income to buy toys. See how many flat screens you can buy with three kids. But this materialism can go overboard…every few months I read about some gay black man dressing like a woman and shoplifting in some high end, designer store. Is jail time worth Gucci?

— LYING: All men lie but Gay men lie for no fucking reason. They lie about their dick size, their butt size, their age, their relationship status, their HIV status. A rule of thumb is don’t believe shit a gay man says to you. I can understand the lying to some extent. To be gay in this nation you still have to keep your life under wraps and glide around the truth to be accepted in some social circles. But when you lie so much you can’t separate truth from fiction there is a problem.

— TIMING: Many gay black men I know have no sense of time or respect for your time. “Oh, you want to hook up with me…yeah come over,” they will say. Then five minutes later. “Oh, but I got to go get my hair cut first so I can look good for you.” Oh puleeze…I’m coming for sex, not a fashion show, I’ll say. Then I’ll tell them to forget it. Many gay people don’t have a sense of time because they only have to worry about themselves. Married men with kids know otherwise.

— MASCULINITY: Ask any gay black men if they are masculine and they will answer, “Yes!” Let them get a little dick and ask them again. I fucked this dude a few weeks back. While we were setting up the rendezvous his voice was a deep, low growl. He spoke in monosyllables. “Yeah man. Sure. Roll over here.” Soon as I pushed that dick up in him and made him squirt the nutt he got girly. “Oh, baby…you SO CRAZZZYY!,” he cooed at me. Masculinity is prized in the black community I guess, which is why so many gay black men fake it. But when a guy does a personality change like that it can be disconcerting.

— CRAZY: A lot of black gay men are crazy. Some have severe intimacy problems. Others willingly do unsafe sex practices they know could ruin their health and put them in their graves prematurely. Some will cut your throat if you try to leave them. I understand why. We live in a society that still does not value black people like it should or gay people. In fact, black folks can be some of the biggest haters of ourselves and our gay and lesbian brothers and sisters. So some gays develop severe self-hatred.

Well, these are just my opinions. Love them or leave them

7 thoughts on “Wonder Woman Drawers: Or What I Don’t Like About Gay Dudes

  1. WOW!!! I agreed with the latter though….Very good points. But I feel like ALL men do this. Gays just do it better…:P

    – The Harajuku Ken Doll
    (A nickname that my besties gave me, nothing too concieted.)

  2. OMG…I agreed with everything you said. The majority of black gay men are too obsessed with material things, and they all lie about random bullshit. Keep preachin bro!

  3. Thanks for the comments. And Reggie you are right. All of God's Children are flawed and do dumb, irrational stuff from time to time.And I'm a man so I know how we roll.

  4. As a straight biracial woman who has dated the rainbow, I can say that your opinions apply to a huge population of people. Those are qualities of a 'class' regardless of race or sexuality. I have gay friends male and female, who do not fit those characteristics. I guess it's hard to size up a person if you're only 'in it' for a few hours.

    I've been following you for a while and really want you to be happy with your life and choices. Courage to be who we are is one of the hardest things we have to do.

    Be careful out there.

    -StarShine

  5. As a proud gay male there is so much that I wanted to say to you after reading this particular blog. I have been following you from the moment that you revealed to me that you were a writer. We have shared blogs, talked on the phone, and we eventually met in person. You are entitled to your opinions. I just want you to be careful about generalizing people off of your experiences. That is how hatred, racism, and prejudice come about.

    We all get passionate about things especially when we feel like we have been wronged, disappointed, or let down by someone. However, it is not right to put down an entire group of people because one person within that population or sect did you wrong. You just have to be careful. Regardless of what you do, say, or in your case: write, someone will always be offended. However, just be careful how you express frustrations. Prime example: It is right for me to believe that “All white people” think that all black people are rude because of what Kanya West did to Taylor Swift on the VMA’s? NO! However, you know that some ignorant ass people that just happen to be white are saying, “That is how all black people act.” So when I read your blog it offended me. You placed all gay people in a box, which was not fair. Now if you had said that some gay men or the gay men that I came in contact with did this or that, then it would have been cool. But you expressed so much hatred in this blog that it leads me to believe that your problem is not with gay people but with yourself. It is so easy to bring someone down to build up yourself while your entire world is grumbling around you. Just own your issues and let people be who they are! If you have so much hatred for these people, why deal with them!

    Is it wrong for me to say that all down-low men or married men that are on the down low are selfish bastards? Is it wrong for me to say that all down-low men are cowards because they are on the down low? You confirmed or basically reaffirmed why I avoid or do not deal with down low men. When things do not go your way, you resort to name calling and labeling, which is sad…I know all married men or down low men who are married do not resort to that but this particular blog makes it so easy for me to put all of you in a box. However, I know better.

    What causes people to develop complexes or as your blogs states, “self-hatred” is when someone who does not have a clue about who they are takes it upon him or herself to tell someone else who they should be. It is so easy to put someone down when your life is an emotional mess. Stop the hate, own your issues, and let people be who they are. Gay, lesbian, and transgender people deal with enough on an every day basis because they are brave enough to be who they are. If you do not like them, just do not deal with them. I get so tire of trifling ass men with major issues trying to put others down because they cannot deal with whom they really are.

    For the record, rather you are gay/straight, male/female, black/white, you can be a liar, egotistical, promiscuous, crazy, and have poor timing. Those things are just not limited to gay men or gay black men. It makes me laugh how we let stereotypes shape our mentality. I have met more supposedly masculine men that claim their friends; family, wives, and girl friends, do not have a clue about them and I just scratch my head in disbelief. The point I am making is, you are definitely entitled to your opinions. You ha realize and be aware that what you say or what you put out based on your own experiences can really impact a lot of people for the good or for the bad if you do not choose your words carefully even if it is an opinion…

    -Sensualego

  6. As a proud gay male there is so much that I wanted to say to you after reading this particular blog. I have been following you from the moment that you revealed to me that you were a writer. We have shared blogs, talked on the phone, and we eventually met in person. You are entitled to your opinions. I just want you to be careful about generalizing people off of your experiences. That is how hatred, racism, and prejudice come about.

    We all get passionate about things especially when we feel like we have been wronged, disappointed, or let down by someone. However, it is not right to put down an entire group of people because one person within that population or sect did you wrong. You just have to be careful. Regardless of what you do, say, or in your case: write, someone will always be offended. However, just be careful how you express frustrations. Prime example: It is right for me to believe that “All white people” think that all black people are rude because of what Kanya West did to Taylor Swift on the VMA’s? NO! However, you know that some ignorant ass people that just happen to be white are saying, “That is how all black people act.” So when I read your blog it offended me. You placed all gay people in a box, which was not fair. Now if you had said that some gay men or the gay men that I came in contact with did this or that, then it would have been cool. But you expressed so much hatred in this blog that it leads me to believe that your problem is not with gay people but with yourself. It is so easy to bring someone down to build up yourself while your entire world is grumbling around you. Just own your issues and let people be who they are! If you have so much hatred for these people, why deal with them!

    Is it wrong for me to say that all down-low men or married men that are on the down low are selfish bastards? Is it wrong for me to say that all down-low men are cowards because they are on the down low? You confirmed or basically reaffirmed why I avoid or do not deal with down low men. When things do not go your way, you resort to name calling and labeling, which is sad…I know all married men or down low men who are married do not resort to that but this particular blog makes it so easy for me to put all of you in a box. However, I know better.

    What causes people to develop complexes or as your blogs states, “self-hatred” is when someone who does not have a clue about who they are takes it upon him or herself to tell someone else who they should be. It is so easy to put someone down when your life is an emotional mess. Stop the hate, own your issues, and let people be who they are. Gay, lesbian, and transgender people deal with enough on an every day basis because they are brave enough to be who they are. If you do not like them, just do not deal with them. I get so tire of trifling ass men with major issues trying to put others down because they cannot deal with whom they really are.

    For the record, rather you are gay/straight, male/female, black/white, you can be a liar, egotistical, promiscuous, crazy, and have poor timing. Those things are just not limited to gay men or gay black men. It makes me laugh how we let stereotypes shape our mentality. I have met more supposedly masculine men that claim their friends; family, wives, and girl friends, do not have a clue about them and I just scratch my head in disbelief. The point I am making is, you are definitely entitled to your opinions. You have to realize and be aware that what you say or what you put out based on your own experiences can really impact a lot of people for the good or for the bad if you do not choose your words carefully even if it is an opinion…

    -Sensualego

  7. Wow, blog readers. Thanks for putting me in my place. You are absolutely right. I did overgeneralize about gay men, and that wasn't fair. Please accept my apologies.

    I had some bad experiences with gay men in the past few weeks and that was where that blog entry came from.

    For the record, several gay men I have met i my adventures have become like brothers. They call to check on me, inquire about my family, and wish me the best. They ask me to hang out to get lunch, breakfast or just a drink. It's not all about sex.

    I am still growing as a person and a gay man, so be patient with me. And don't hesitate to call me up when I am wrong.

    Thanks Anonymous and SensualEgo!

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