Dick and Ass Convocation

My buddy “Elliott” in Delaware is friends with a down-low Church of God in Christ minister.

This minister attended the COGIC Convocation in St. Louis in September.

I have heard a lot of sex between DL church members takes place at these gatherings. In fact I know some married DL ministers who love going to them for that very reason .

Well Elliott’s minister buddy hooked up with an Elder at the convocation and banged his back out and sent Elliott the photos to prove it.

Hot pics but wow – men of God having raw sex and possibly going back home to wives? Makes you wonder.

The Elder

The Elder


Another fuck shot

Another fuck shot

The Minister shows off his ass.

The Minister shows off his ass.

The Thug Up the Block and the Fire

I kid you not about this.

On Friday night I dreamed I hit the lottery. In  the dream I turned to “Van” and said, “Hey let’s use a little bit of these millions to fix up Ray’s house up the street.”

“Ray” is the “Thug Up of the Block” who I have written about in past blog posts. He works a blue collar job and doesn’t earn so much and his house is in need of major repair. In the dream Van and I do some HGTV magic, hire a crew, and fix up his house in a matter of hours while he is working his night-shift job.

Fires can be disastrous in Baltimore because most people in the city live in rowhouses that are connected, increasing the chance fires will spread. Photo courtesy of ABC2News.com.

Fires can be disastrous in Baltimore because most people in the city live in rowhouses that are connected, increasing the chance fires will spread. Photo courtesy of ABC2News.com.

When he walks up the street and sees his house he gets a look of joy that is indescribable. It was a pleasant dream and I woke up in a good mood remembering it.

Well, the dream came true early Sunday morning  but not in a way I would have ever expected.

Van and I were sleeping soundly when we were awakened by neighbors’ shouts and  sirens. It was a cool, fall evening so I left the windows to my bedroom open. A cloud of smoke was drifting over our street and the acrid smell drifted into the room.

Then I saw the reflection of flames in the windows of rowhouses across the street.

Van and I ran outside with many of our neighbors and I looked up the block. Whose house was that on fire? Oh no, I realized in horror. It was Ray’s house!

The upper story of the house where his bedroom was was fully ablaze. Flames and sparks climbed into the dark sky.

Wait I thought. I had his number. I ran back in the house and grabbed my cell.

I rang Ray’s phone. I was filled with dread. If he didn’t answer that could mean he was trapped inside. Dying in a horrible way.

But he picked up on the third ring. My heart leaped for joy.

“Ray your house is on fire!”

“Hey, I heard,” he yelled. “I’m not home. I’m heading home and will be there in a few minutes.”

The Drinkery, a popular gay bar on Read Street in Baltimore.

The Drinkery, a popular gay bar on Read Street in Baltimore.

Ray had been hanging out at “The Drinkery,” a gay bar on Read Street, when he got the call his house was on fire.

He ran over to busier Martin Luther King Avenue, hopping up and down frantically trying to get a cab home. By coincidence two fire marshals on the way to the blaze at his house saw him and pulled over and brought him back to our street.

It took firefighters hours to put out the fire completely — they even had to call in a helicopter to spray water on it from above. The fire damaged rowhouses on both sides Ray’s house.

His house was completely ruined — only the brick front and porch remain. The back of the house is now a jumble of charred wood, brick and siding.

Sadly, Ray lost a year-old pitbull and his cat in the fire.

A man working on a fire clean-up crew told me they found the dog huddled in what was left of the dining room. He had died from smoke inhalation and had not burned to death. I was glad that was  how it happened — I knew Ray was devoted to that puppy and didn’t want him to suffer.

Fortunately Ray had insurance and his house will be rebuilt. The Red Cross put him up in a hotel not far away and after Sunday church service I went to visit him. Van and I gave him a $100 to help out.

Ray is a proud dude but he said he is taking his family’s advice to accept all the help that is offered. The only clothes he has left are what he wore to the bar.

After talking a few minutes I got up to leave. “I’m sorry about your pets Ray but I’m so glad you are okay,” I said, giving him a bear hug.

“Well, it’s all in God’s hands,” he said quietly.


Yusaf Mack Comes Clean!

Yusaf Mack. Photo courtesy of proboxing-fans.com.

Yusaf Mack. Photo courtesy of proboxing-fans.com.

A few days ago I wrote about former professional boxer Yusaf Mack, who did a gay porn film for Dawgpound and then when his peeps found out lied and said he was drugged and thought he was doing a straight film.

Us folks in the gayniverse knew he was lying. You could see clips of the scene and know.

In my blog post I wrote about what Mack should do, including admitting he lied and becoming an advocate for gay rights.

I don’t know whether he reads my blog or that threatened lawsuit from Dawgpound scared him but looks like he is starting to do it. He came clean and admitted he lied about the drugging and is a bisexual.

Here is a link to an article with the full statement.

This is a great first step. He is going to help himself and many other people. I wish him nothing but the best.

P.S. Dawgpound should be very happy. Dude probably made them a lot of money! #freepublicity



Joining Forces

Photo courtesy of taxsnafu.com

Photo courtesy of taxsnafu.com

Well, it’s official. My partner “Van” has sold his home and has moved in with me.

He is always at my house anyway so it’s merely a formality.

So far we seem to blend. His furniture is fitting in perfectly, just like it was meant to be in my home.

I love to cook, and he loves to eat. He likes to clean the kitchen while I prefer puttering around in my garden. So there is already a division of labor.

We even got a kitten — a rambunctious female orange tabby who loves to pounce on and bite our arms, legs and feet in the middle of the night. So you see we are gay men but we still like having some pussy around.

Still this is a major step. Will we get on each other’s nerves?

Van is a part of my household now – my home is now his home. When friends and family come by he will be there and I will have to explain who he is. And no I won’t say just my roommate.

So I’m taking another step out of the closet.


My Advice to Yusaf Mack

Yusaf Mack. Photo courtesy of dawgpoundusa.com.

Yusaf Mack. Photo courtesy of dawgpoundusa.com.

Okay, I’m sure you have heard it now. The story of Yusaf Mack, a professional boxer who did a threesome gay sex scene for dawgpoundusa.com but claimed he was drugged and wasn’t aware of what he was doing.

Yeah. right.

The story has gone everywhere. It’s on one of my favorite blogs InsideJamariFox.com, on Philly.com, the New York Daily News and on the gay news website Queerty.

Mack, 35, who had an impressive boxing record of 31 wins (17 by knockout) is clearly lying. I’m going to say it. He doesn’t look drugged in the video. He sucked dick like a champ and got fucked like a champ too.

“That’s all you got? Come on. Come on,” he says while getting fucked by Bamm Bamm in this clip.


Mack, who goes by the porn star name "Philly," bottoming for Bamm Bamm. Screen short courtesy of dawgpoundusa.com. Mack, who goes by the porn star name “Philly,” bottoming for Bamm Bamm. Screen short courtesy of dawgpoundusa.com./caption]

Mack reportedly has 10 kids. I’m not surprised. Many gay and bisexual men, including myself, have children.

Shoot, I know a masculine bottom who works as an auto mechanic who has four children by four different women. He said he kept having babies to prove to himself and everyone that he was straight but each time a baby popped out he would go back to men.

Mack is clearly in the same boat although the Tweets he has favorited show a man who is probably bisexual.

At 35 his boxing career is probably over and with 10 kids and numerous baby mamas on his back I’m sure money is tight. So I understand him doing porn to make ends meet. But don’t blame the porn shoot on a roofie and vodka.

And all is not lost. Mack really has a lot of options. Here is my advice on how he should handle this situation:

  1. Don’t be ashamed. Everybody does stuff in their lives they don’t want folks to know about. And everybody is having sex in various permutations although most of us ain’t filming it.
  2. Fess up and confess you are gay or bisexual. Today this really isn’t such a big deal.
  3. Go on television news and do a mea culpa. Say  you were embarrassed your porn acting past caught up with you and that you are now going into counseling to figure yourself out. Then disappear for a minute but not too long.
  4. Enlist an agent, a publicist and a good lawyer and start turning lemons into lemonade.
  5. Do the Wendy Williams Show, The Tom Joyner Morning Show and the Steve Harvey Show. If you feel noble use that platform to promote better understanding of LGBT people in the Black community.
  6. If you want, resurface as porn actor. The fact you are a professional boxer will give you more cachet. You can demand more  money for your scenes or work for predominately white porn studios such as Randy Blue. Or launch your own pay-per-view adult website.
  7. Go to the West Coast and become a personal trainer/escort. The gay men out there will eat you alive and you might be able to live decently as a kept man for a few years or until you turn 40, whichever comes first.
  8. If you don’t want to do porn or escort consider partnering with an LGBT organization (Human Rights Campaign, Gay Olympics etc.) to go on lecture tours to talk about your experiences. Believe me you will attract crowds.
  9. Write a book. Spice things up by saying there are other DL boxers you know but you can’t say their names. Your book will sell like hotcakes.
  10. Pitch a reality show. Enlist your baby mamas to come on and create fake drama. “I didn’t know you was no faggot! How could you do this to me!” The ratings will be good, you will make some bank, and your 15 minutes of fame will last a few minutes longer.
  11. Consider turning your story into a film. Find an independent filmmaker to do it and go on the film festival circuit promoting your story.
  12. Go back to school. Learn a trade. Try to be the best father you can to your children.


The Gangbang Theory

Gangbangs are a popular category in gay porn. Often it's the stereotypical set-up of a white bottom being ravaged by a room of big-dicked black men. Photo courtesy of smutty.com.

Gangbangs are a popular category in gay porn. Often it’s the stereotypical set-up of a white bottom being ravaged by a room of big-dicked black men. Photo courtesy of smutty.com.

An acquaintance in Virginia hit me up Sunday and asked when “Van” and I would have our next sex party.

“I don’t know. We don’t really plan them too often,” I answered.

“Well, let me know,” he texted back. “The next time you have one I want to drive up from Alexandria and get gangbanged.”

That comment put me in a strange place. Like I’m supposed to have a sex party just to fulfill his fantasy?

“Hey I can’t control what people do at parties – the sex just kinda flows,” I answered. “If you want a gangbang I suggest you save up and hire two escorts to do that. But have a friend join you to make sure you are safe. I know guys who do that.”

He didn’t answer.

People ask me to arrange gangbangs for them all the time. Like I can just wave a magic wand and turn a pumpkin into a coach, hook Cinderella up with a ball gown and glass slippers, and make a roomful of big dick tops ready to fuck appear.

The thing that gets me about these requests is that most guys who ask for it are not in the best shape or the most attractive, including the man from Virginia.

The question got me so peeved that I texted my buddy “Freddy” (read more about him in “Never Bite the Ass or Dick that Feeds You”). I asked him if bottoms also hit him up and asked him to set up gangbangs. And Freddy said yes they do.

In fact, he has arranged for bottoms to take on three or four tops but he makes sure the bottom is attractive and that he has had sex with them to make sure they can take dick. Because there is nothing worse than to bring a bunch of horny tops over and the bottom can’t take dick — it’s a real mood killer.

This whole question of gangbangs got me curious so Sunday afternoon while I watched football (did you see that Redskins versus Tampa Bay game?I) I Googled the psychology behind them to find out why some gay men crave gangbangs. Here is what I learned:

  • Many men and women fantasize about giving up control and letting someone else take the reins, particularly people who have demanding, high pressure careers where they have to manage others or people who have a lot of familial responsibilities. I notice many of the men who request gangbangs are professionals.
  • Rape is a common fantasy for women and men. Some people get an adrenaline rush from the thought of being overpowered or in danger. Add sex to that feeling and it can become downright intoxicating for some people.
  • Some white men get aroused by giving up control to a person of color. This is still a taboo act for some. The act can allow them to work out guilt about racist feelings or fulfill the stereotypical, racist fantasy of being taken by big-dicked black “mandingos.”
  • Being the sole bottom in a group of men can make a man feel extra desirable and boost self-esteem. All those dicks in the room are hard because of you. Everybody wants to fuck you. You become the center of attention. Notice when men advertise for gangbangs on hookup websites that they stipulate that no verse or bottom men join. That’s because they want no competition.
  • For those into raw sex having men ejaculate into them can be very arousing. Some men get off on the look, smell, taste and feel of nutt while others feel that having another man ejaculate into them is the ultimate form of male bonding.
  • Laziness. Face it — there are some men who don’t want to do a lot of work sexually, such as foreplay. They just want to lay on their back or stomach, put that ass up and get fucked and done.

Freddy, another buddy named “Everett” and I agreed that doing gang bangs can be boring if you are one of the tops. Like, who wants to stand around jacking off waiting to get used ass.

Everett told me the story of how a bottom guy arranged for multiple tops to come in and fuck him at a downtown Baltimore hotel.

“I went and fucked the guy but it wasn’t great at all,” Everett said. “His ass was loose — no walls — and the guy really wasn’t that nice looking. But the top that fucked him and was leaving when I walked in — now that brother was fine!”

Readers, how do you feel about gangbangs? Have you participated in one as a top or bottom? What was it like?




Reader Question Follow-Up: Dominican Man Needs Additional Info

I received a question from a reader in the Dominican Republic about dating and relationships. I answered and he sent these follow-up questions:

Q: I felt honored and surprised because you used my history for your blog. Thanks a lot for your advice. I would like to ask you a few more questions if you don’t mind. Do you know of any good websites with information regarding gay dating? Do you know any website with tips for becoming a better lover? Since you have a lot of experience and you have met lots of gay men. Do you think most gay men are only into sex?

By the way. I know that in my country there are some gay bars and discos and in fact I know their location, but I don’t feel ready to step on one of them. I hope you are doing great.

A: Good to hear from you and I’m well!

Book cover

Book cover

Are gay men just into sex? Dude, men (straight, bisexual, gay) tend to be more sexual. But there are many men who desire relationships. Some gay couples practice monogamy while others have open relations.

If you want to improve your sexual knowledge I strongly recommend “The Joy of Gay Sex”. It will teach you everything you need to know about sexual positions, gay sexual subcultures, cruising, clubs, relationships, twinks, bears and on and on! I downloaded it on Kindle and refer to it from time to time.
Another great book is The Male Couple. It is a must read. It was done after months of research by a gay male couple who were a social worker and medical doctor. It tells readers why male-to-male relationships differ from straight and lesbian relationships and how to make them work. It addresses the stages of relationships, everyday life in a relationship, and sexuality.
Book cover

Book cover

Here is a list of websites targeted at gay DATING, not sexual hookups! Who knows, you may find someone from the Dominican Republic on these sites. But use them with caution and be careful and safe.

And glad to know you know where there are gay friendly social venues in the Dominican Republic. If you decide to visit one, fine. If you decide to never go that is fine too. It is up to you. Live your life and express your wonderful sexuality how you wish!