Trey and the Hollywood Actor


Darryl Stephens, who starred in the series "Noah's Arc," is one of only a handful of openly gay black male actors in Hollywood. My buddy Trey says if all the gay black men in the entertainment industry came out of the closet a lot of fans would have heart attacks.

Darryl Stephens, who starred in the series “Noah’s Arc,” is one of only a handful of openly gay black male actors in Hollywood. My buddy Trey says if all the gay black men in the entertainment industry came out of the closet a lot of fans would have heart attacks.

“Trey” is a 40-something professional I know who is in the hospitality industry. He  frequently travels for business. He gave me this account about how he met a well-known African American actor who is down-low and how there are more gay black men than you think in the entertainment industry.

Trey was on business in Los Angeles eight years ago when he decided to go on a gay chat line and got hit up on by “Jarvis,” a medium height, well built man with pecan brown skin, liquid brown eyes and a dazzling smile.

“I doubt we can meet in Los Angeles,” Trey said. “I’m leaving tomorrow morning for New York City for work.”

“Oh, what a coincidence,” said Jarvis, who had a tenor voice as smooth as butter. “I’m going to New York for a job in a day or two. We can meet there.”

So they agreed to meet in Manhattan the following week. When Jarvis walked into the hotel lobby Trey thought he looked familiar. And then it hit him.

Jarvis was an actor in his 40’s who in film had played alongside some of the most popular black actors and comedians in Hollywood, including Loretta Devine, Ice Cube and Katt Williams.

He was also a guest star on several popular detective and police TV series.

“Trey, you have got to be kidding me? He’s gay?,” I said after he told me the actor’s real name. “He’s handsome and all but I would have never thought.”

“Yep, he is gay or at least very bisexual,” Trey answered. “We started dating and he showered me with gifts and money and flew me out to Los Angeles all the time. I was smart about it. Half of the money he gave me I put in the bank.”

Trey is a light-skinned man from Trinidad. He is not particularly handsome but has a great personality and is slight of build with a bubble ass. He is also masculine with a deep voice with a slight but appealing Trinidadian tinge to it.

But to top it off Trey is a beast bottom in the bedroom. So I could see someone trying to lock that down.

The sex was spectacular and the Trey and Jarvis seemed to enjoy each others’ company. But after a year or so the relationship abruptly ended.

“He told me he had hired a live-in maid so next time I came out to L.A. she would be at his house.”

“So I flew out and called him and this woman answered,” Trey continued. “And I asked, ‘Who is this?'”

“And she got testy and said, ‘Who the hell are you? I am Jarvis’ fiancee.'”

Trey said he got very angry. He knew athletes and actors on the down-low often had male lovers in cities they frequented but he thought he had developed a close relationship with Jarvis.

Jarvis had never mentioned he was dating a woman, much less planning to marry one.

“So I told her what was up,” Trey said. “Jarvis called me later and was upset as shit, asking why I pushed him out of the closet like that. But I told him he was wrong for not telling me about her.”

There was a question I had to ask.

“But Trey he was asking you to L.A. to stay in the same house with his fiancee. Do you think he might have wanted to get down with both of you? Maybe at the same time?”

“He might have wanted that but that was not the way to do it surprising me like that,” Trey said. “At any rate they got married the next year.”

Many of the stories Trey told me mirrored accounts I read in "Hiding in Hip Hop," a book about down-low men in the entertainment industry written by Terrance Dean.

Many of the stories Trey told me mirrored accounts I read in “Hiding in Hip Hop,” a book about down-low men in the entertainment industry written by Terrance Dean.

Trey was introduced to the celebrity down-low world through other friends. He has rattled off names of some actors and music artists he knows are gay or bisexual because he has gone to exclusive parties in the Hamptons and other places where these guys congregate.

The code when you are invited to these events is you don’t talk about what happens or you get locked out forever.

“These parties were like regular house parties but these estates are so big and there were many rooms so you would walk around and come across guys having sex,” Trey said. “Once I went into the bathroom and there was this (well known black model) on his knees sucking a white man’s dick.”

He rattled off names of many down-low celebrities I recognized. A rap music mogul, a comedian and actor, and three rappers, including one who is well known for throwing homophobic rants both in his music and in public.

Some of the stories Trey told me would make great gossip fodder on TMZ, including one about this married rapper who has been popular from way back in the day.

“He had a male lover on the side,” Trey said. “And he moved him onto his estate. The wife got so upset she moved into the guest house. But she stayed married to him. Eventually the lover had to go.”

Trey said women who are married to these men probably know they play with males on the side. But they ignore it because they are getting the money and prestige.

Trey is visiting Baltimore this weekend. I can’t wait to introduce him to Van and hang out with him so I can hear more stories.

Down-low Desperation


Photo courtesy of Examiner.com.

Photo courtesy of Examiner.com.

Late last Thursday night he hit me up on Adam4Adam.com.

A tall, dark-skinned brother in his late 30’s. Just two miles away if you drove in a straight line.

“Look, I just want to suck some dick,” he texted. “I don’t drive but you could come over.”

I’m not lying. His photos looked hot. We phoned each other. His voice was masculine and had that edge to it. You know, that huskiness and urgency that is in the timbre of a man’s voice when he is horny as shit.

“Yeah, text me that address.”

But when he gave me his address he directed me to come to the rear of the row house.

“Why? Are you not alone?”

“My girl and kids are upstairs sleeping. It would take an hour on buses to come to you. But I can open the basement door and you can just come downstairs. I want to suck that big dick.”

“Dude, are you crazy? That’s so disrespectful.”

“I’m feeling hormonal,” he answered. “Just come over.”

There was no way I would have done that. What if his son or daughter woke up and walked downstairs and saw Daddy doing something salacious that would have them laying on a therapist’s couch 20 years from now?

What if his girl came down? And had a knife. Or a gun. Or a frying pan.

Oh HELL no I wasn’t going.

But his dilemma made me think. How long could his situation go on? I had been down that road years ago (read my earlier blog entries to see).

I had come far enough to see where his path would lead.

This wasn’t going to come to a good end. He was going to break out of this down-low prison eventually or his woman was going to find out and spring him from prison himself, possibly in a messy, disastrous way.

I wanted to tell him so much. To give advice. To warn.

Instead I logged off, turned over and went to sleep. The next time he hits me up I promise I will try to talk to him but that Thursday night I was too tired.

 

 

 

Video: Making It Rain


xtube2One of my favorite positions with my boyfriend “Van” is when he rides me.

We had a nice sex session this morning, starting off we me eating him out, and missionary style, with some nipple licking and kissing to spice things up.

Then when he climbed on top and came, he really came. This is the video, see for yourself.

And this is how I looked afterward. What a mess! But what a way to start a Saturday morning.

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Weird Sexual Thing Guys Have Asked Me to Do


weirdsexGuys have asked me to piss on them, slap them, spit on them, sit on their faces or stick my foot in their mouths.

And I’ve done all that. Shit, a couple of times.

But some stuff is just too freaky or weird, even for old open-minded Manuel.

For instance, this sizzling hot dude from Florida hit me up on Adam4Adam. Just 27 years old, hot body, copper skin and a face so handsome it shone like the sun.

“Why are you hitting me up from so far?”

“I like Daddies,” he said.

“Cool.”

“Can I ask you something?”

“Sure.”

“Do you snore?”

“Well, yeah, sometimes really loud.”

“Well, I get off on guys snoring. That shit makes me so hot. Tell you what. Tonight or tomorrow night call me when you are about to fall asleep and leave the phone on. I promise I can make you nutt while you sleep and get myself off too.”

“Okayyyy. Are you serious?”

“Oh yes Daddy.”

Snoring is sexy? Who wudda thunk?

Snoring is sexy? Who wudda thunk?

The whole thing sounded crazy. I mean weird. How da fuck was he going to get me off when I was sleeping?

Could somebody ‘splain that to me?

Homie gave me his number but I never called.

A few years ago I was at the Crew Club bathhouse in D.C. This young, hot, little brown-skinned brother hit me up. He looked as clean cut and wholesome as a freshman on the debate team.

Guess what he asked me when I got him in a room alone?

“Would you squat over me and shit on my chest while I jack off and nutt?”

Dead pause. Silence lasted 10 seconds.

“What? Are you serious.”

“Yes.”

“You mean we aren’t fucking.”

“Nah, I’m not into that.”

“Dude you are young. How did you develop a freaky-ass kink like that?”

“Well, I used to like to have guys fart on me and it just went from there.”

“Okay I don’t think this is going anywhere,” I said. ” ‘ll leave you be.”

I got out of that room quick.

Q: Okay readers fess up. What’s something crazy someone asked you to do in the bed that you just couldn’t get enough freak up in you to do?

Why Victor Loves Trans Women


Actress and transgender activist Laverne Cox made the cover of Time in 2014. Victor said she is the type of trans woman he loves.

Actress and transgender activist Laverne Cox made the cover of Time in 2014. Victor said she is the type of trans woman he loves.

New Year’s Eve was a blast.

“Van” and I went Baltimore gay bar hopping, bringing the New Year in at The Drinkery, taking in some House Music at Ziaskos Bar & Lounge, meeting up with buddy “Teddy” outside Club Bunns, and wrapping up the night at the Gallery Bar and Restaurant.

Everyone smiling, wishing strangers a Happy New Year, and wearing party hats and tooting horns.

At the Gallery Teddy introduced us to his friend “Victor,” a tall, light-skinned, 40-something black man who is a dead ringer of Blake Griffin of the L.A. Clippers.

I was a tipsy from two glasses of white wine, a glass of champagne and a spicy clove cigarette. So I was a bit more forward than I usually am.

“Victor, you are handsome guy. Are you single?”

“Yep, I sure am but looking.”

“Well, what are you looking for?”

“Well, I like women…and women with a little something extra.”

I sobered up a bit. We were in a gay bar and I had seen Victor before in other gay bars. What did he mean by he was looking for a woman? He was in the wrong place.

Then it hit me. Ohhh. Wow I can be dense sometimes. By women with a little extra Victor meant transgendered.

“You like transgendered women,” I asked.

“Yeah,” Victor said, smiling sheepishly.

Baltimore has plenty of people who are transgendered. I see them in clubs. On the streets. But I never really talked to one.

Often I notice they are in the company of handsome, very masculine men. But I had never had an opportunity to talk to a man who was open about his attraction to a transgendered person.

I wasn’t going to pass up this chance to talk to one. Victor went over to the buffet table and brought back a plate full of fried chicken wings to share. I took one and started asking questions.

The first: what attracted him to trans women?

Victor explained that he liked very feminine transgendered women who are passable.

What intrigued him about them is that  a transgendered person was like having the best of both worlds — a best male buddy and girlfriend all rolled into one.

“So, I have to ask. Do they do you or are you doing them?”

“Immanuel, I’m a total top. I fuck them.”

“So your ideal transgendered woman is somebody like Laverne Cox from Orange is the New Black?”

“Oh yeah, she is beautiful,” Victor said. “I like the ones who dress like women all the time. Not some deep-voiced guy who likes to do drag from time to time.”

Teddy later told me he had once dated a guy who was a drag queen and was into drag pageants. Teddy prefers more masculine men and broke up when this man began dressing more as a woman in everyday life.

But during the time Teddy dated him Victor would hang out with them and use that connection to meet transgendered women.

“I think all his talk about preferring women and transgendered girls is bull,” Teddy said. “I think he is really gay and likes men but won’t own up to it. By dating women and transgendered women he can hide that.”

Victor did admit he never took transgendered people around his mother or family — only women he dated who were biologically female.

Trans author and activist Janet Mock. Photo courtesy of Facebook.

Trans author and activist Janet Mock. Photo courtesy of Facebook.

However, there are men in the gay community who prefer transgendered people, although their voice in the gay rights movement is silent. Author and transgender activist Janet Mock even wrote this article about how society shames men attracted to trans women.

This societal attitude has devastating effects on trans women. Mock explained:

This pervasive ideology says that trans women are shameful, that trans women are not worthy of being seen and that trans women must remain a secret — invisible and disposable. If a man dares to be seen with a trans woman, he will likely lose social capital so he must adamantly deny, vehemently demean, trash and/or exterminate the woman in question.

So I think Teddy was wrong. Victor knew what he liked and was not afraid to tell that to a stranger in a bar in the opening hours of the first day of 2015.

“Hey, I wish you luck with dating this year,” I told Victor. “You seem to know what you want. And if I meet a transgendered woman who I think you might like I will introduce you. I think you are a cool dude.”

Victor smiled. “Thanks man.”

 

Immanuel’s Ins and Outs List for 2015


Happy New Year Readers!

2014 was a good year for me and ended with a lot of positives.

I look forward to having a great 2015 as well although there will be challenges. However, I’ve learned that faith in God will get you through.

But enough of the seriousness. Let’s start 2015 on a fun note. Here is my list of what I see will be in or out in 2015.

I want to hear from you too! Please leave what you think will be in or out in the comment section!

Out: Sexual Labels

Photo courtesy of Huffington Post.

Photo courtesy of Huffington Post.

In: Versatility

Cover of photo book Black Versatile.

Cover of photo book Black Versatile.

Out: Timberland Classic  Boot

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In: Timberland Chukka Boot

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Out: Rallying for Gay Marriage

Photo courtesy of stmurphy.blogspot.com.

Photo courtesy of stmurphy.blogspot.com.

In: Rallying for equal rights for LGBT people living in Africa, Russia and the Middle East

Photo courtesy of Reuters.

Photo courtesy of Reuters.

Out: Iggy Azalea

Photo courtesy of hotnewhiphop.com.

Photo courtesy of hotnewhiphop.com.

In: Lee Mazin

Photo courtesy of thewomenofhiphop.com.

Photo courtesy of thewomenofhiphop.com.

Out: Straight Bars

Photo courtesy of Wikipedia.

Photo courtesy of Wikipedia.

In: Old-fashioned Gay Bars

My favorite gay bar in Baltimore, The Drinkery. Photo courtesy of edsbaltimorephotos.com.

My favorite gay bar in Baltimore, The Drinkery. Photo courtesy of edsbaltimorephotos.com.

Out:  The Real Housewives of Atlanta

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IN: My Husband’s Not Gay

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Out: Cruising at Bookstores

Photo courtesy of Baltimore Sun.

Photo courtesy of Baltimore Sun.

 In: Cruising at Whole Foods

Photo courtesy of Wikipedia.

Photo courtesy of Wikipedia.

Out: Smooth

Photo courtesy of Huffington Post.

Photo courtesy of Huffington Post.

In: Hairy

Photo courtesy of Pinterest.

Photo courtesy of Pinterest.

Out: Being a good dick sucker

Photo courtesy of black-gay-porn.biz.

Photo courtesy of black-gay-porn.biz.

In: Being a good kisser

Photo courtesy of nktours.ning.com.

Photo courtesy of nktours.ning.com.

Out: Drag Queens

Photo courtesy of Huffington Post.

Photo courtesy of Huffington Post.

In: Drag Kings

Photo courtesy of Wikipedia.

Photo courtesy of Wikipedia.

Out: Tyler Perry

Photo courtesy of the Toledo Blade.

Photo courtesy of the Toledo Blade.

 

In: Issa Rae

Photo courtesy of Pinterest.

Photo courtesy of Pinterest.

Out: Idris Elba

Photo courtesy of geeksandcleats.com.

Photo courtesy of geeksandcleats.com.

In: Idris Elba

Photo courtesy of blogs.indiewire.com.

Photo courtesy of blogs.indiewire.com.

International Lover


Almost all the men I play with are Black. I’ve been thinking about expanding my options and trying men of other races.

And of course I would love to get with an Asian guy (remember my top fantasies?).

Little did I know how quickly that would happen.

“Armin” is a sexy, 23-year-old Filipino/Dominican man who came to one of our sex parties and befriended my partner “Van” and me.

He has a thing for older black men and wanted to set up something private. So a few Saturdays ago Van arranged for us to get together.

Edgar looked and performed a lot like the Latin bottom in his picture. Photo courtesy of xxxbunker.com.

Edgar looked and performed a lot like the Latin bottom in his picture. Photo courtesy of xxxbunker.com.

But in order to liven up the mix I invited “Edgar,” this muscular Argentinian bottom with a thing for Black men who had been hitting me up for weeks online, and “Teddy,” a handsome, dark-chocolate verse guy who is a friend of Van and me.

Armin worried about taking big dick so I started off things by eating him out to loosen him up. He is a smaller guy, only about 5′ 6″, but has a bubble ass and a thick, big dick.

He laid at the foot of the bed moaning. That is, until Teddy put his dick in his mouth and shut him up.

Then Van, Teddy and I took turns fucking Edgar and Armin. Doggy style, missionary style, butterfly style.

I have to admit it was kinda hot to see and experience three tall dark-skinned black men dominate men who craved black dick. The mix of skin tones, from yellow, to smooth chocolate to olive, was intoxicating.

But it was also nice to see the barriers drop — we were five men from vastly different backgrounds and from different part of the world just doing enjoying each other.

I think I want to do that again.

Q: Readers, are you open to playing with or dating men from other races?